3 tips to help you cope with any difficulties

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

How not to go crazy if hell is around.

When something bad happens, people often hide from their worries and wait for things to work out. It is a normal reaction to wish for more happiness and less pain. But if negative experiences continue for a long time, we stop living in an attempt to hide from them.

Here's what you need to do to get the most out of the bad times in your emotional bomb shelter.

1. See negativity as an opportunity for growth

Any negative experience can teach you a lot if you perceive it correctly. Firing from your job can give you an impetus to find a profession that is more suitable for you. Parting with a loved one will help make room for new quality relationships.

The disease will tell you what you are doing wrong: do not monitor your health, you work too much, leaving no time for yourself and your family, you worry too much. Often after an illness, people change their views on many things, begin to take care of themselves, spend more time with loved ones.

Any nuisance is your teacher. But you can only understand the lesson if you openly relive your experience.

2. Don't hide, live your life entirely

In an attempt to escape despair, people often hide behind meaningless activities: they drink, overeat sweets, watch TV, stick on the Internet and social networks, play computer games - they do anything just not to think about problems and not to experience pain.

This strategy helps, but only temporarily. Emotions do not disappear anywhere: the next morning with a hangover or after eating a bucket of ice cream, they will rush over you with renewed vigor.

Don't hide from your feelings. On the contrary, open up to them and experience them to the fullest. It will not kill you, it will heal you.

It would seem that the more we concentrate on our condition, the more we feel the pain. However, the study of Mindfulness meditation trumps placebo in pain reduction showed that this is not the case. People who practice mindfulness meditation suffered 44% less pain than the rest of the experiment.

Concentrate on your condition. Not on external circumstances, but on what is going on inside you now. What are you experiencing: fear, longing, hopelessness, despair? Expand this feeling, live it completely, feel its different shades. Imagine that you need to describe your emotional state in the most detailed way, without missing a single detail.

3. Love your experience

Once you've stopped hiding from negativity, exposed your emotions, and learned your lessons, the next step is to love your experience.

Every moment filled with pain and sorrow is at the same time full of beauty. Every person who grieves you at the same time gives you an invaluable lesson. Love every minute of your experience and everyone who makes it possible for you.

Rejoice in bad times as opportunities for growth, take them as an invitation to improve.

When the troubles are over, you will become a little stronger and wiser than you were.