4 tips to help you overcome any difficulties in life

1. Accept reality

Acceptance does not mean consent. You just need to admit that this or that event is a fait accompli. By resting and repeating that this should not have happened, you are only wasting time and energy. By accepting what is happening, you will take the first step in order to find a way out of the situation.

Imagine a traffic jam. One person will think, “How unfair! And why does this always happen to me? He will start to get angry, nervous and swear with other drivers.

A psychologically stable person will simply remind himself: "Every day millions of cars drive on the roads, naturally, there will be traffic jams from time to time." This attitude will help you stay calm. Such a person will turn on the podcast and wait for traffic to recover.

To accept reality, we need to understand what we can control and what we cannot. In situations that you cannot influence in any way, try to control yourself.

2. Stop feeling sorry for yourself

Accepting reality will help organize your thoughts and feelings. This is the key to productive behavior. How we behave when faced with a problem determines how quickly we find a solution. Even if our problem cannot be solved (for example, the loss of a loved one), we still choose how to react to what happened every time.

Do not indulge in self-pity. It will not allow you to move on and will completely deprive you of fortitude. Ask yourself, "What can I do right now to help myself somehow?" You may have to overcome your fear or do something unpleasant. The main thing is to act.

3. Control sad thoughts

The mind can be both our best ally and our worst enemy. If you allow negative thoughts to take over, you simply cannot do anything.

Thoughts like “I’ll never be able to do this” or “I can’t take more than a minute” will prevent you from achieving your goals. Therefore, try to notice when your thoughts become overly pessimistic.

If you feel like you are panicking, think about what you would say if your friend were in this situation. Surely you would encourage him and assure him that he will succeed.

4. Train mental resilience in advance

A crisis situation is not the right time to start developing psychological resilience. This must be done in advance.

You will not wait until you need to lift something heavy to start pumping muscles? It is unlikely that it will help you if you start pulling the iron five minutes before moving the sofa. But by building up strength gradually, you will be able to lift more weight.

The same can be said for psychological resilience. So that you have the strength of mind to overcome life's difficulties, train it every day.