3 self-leveling practices to help you overcome financial difficulties

1. Watch your language

If I say to you, “You cannot make money because you are a moron,” it will cause a certain reaction and response. Just like the phrase "You are beautiful, infinitely strong, I love you." Your thoughts are a superhighway to the spiritual world, where the Universal Reason is found in anticipation of you and your orders. Words and thoughts are friends-buddies. Well, you know, they share everything, complete sentences for each other, support, convey information and emotions like notes in high school.

Therefore, if you are broke or do not know where to go from a financial point of view, you should definitely understand one thing. It is worth boosting your vocabulary. Hidden beliefs can be invoked not only by active actions, but also by observing what you are saying. Words, like truffle pigs, are excellent at looking for hiding places.

Fortunately, the vocabulary building process is very simple. You just need to be careful. As you read this book, watch what comes out of your mouth. Take it as a mantra: slow down and be silent. Practice and breathe deeply before speaking. This will help you understand what you wanted to say and fix it on the fly as needed.

Paying attention to other people's speech is another good way (and actually, you know, it's not a bad thing overall). It will give you the opportunity to think, "Hmmmm, do I sound the same?" This is usually very helpful because the people we spend a lot of time with often share our perception of reality. Consequently, they verbalize the same opinions about money as we do.

Here are a few phrases to watch out for:

I want (= I am missing).
I desire (but I have no opportunity = no power).
I need (I don't have it).
I can't (everything is clear here).
I try (but I hesitate).
I hope (may / may not happen = no faith).
I should (but maybe I won't do anything, or maybe I don't want to).
I don’t know (if this is true, how can I find out now?).

Here are some great substitutes:

I have.
I'm creating.
I am grateful for …
I'm enjoying.
I can.
I choose.
I love.

In addition, we must be especially careful with the words “I know” *. Nothing slams open doors as fast as the phrase, “Well, yes, I know you need to watch your thoughts. No need to explain, let's move on! " These are very slippery words because we often think that knowing is good. It really doesn't matter how much we "know".

Each story always has several sides, a huge number of questions, the answers to which would help us a lot. Especially when it comes to self-development, we need to hear some things over and over again until they create a clear picture.

Another words "I know …" do not allow us to receive information from the Universal Mind. When we are so convinced and attached to what the brain dictates, we cannot understand and embrace knowledge more deeply. We behave as if we are smarter than the Universal Mind, the one that created everything. And we ourselves do not remember when to take out the trash.

* An important note about the phrase "I know." You have permission to use it as a confirmation of your greatness. For example: “I can do this. I know I'm the coolest dude."

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2. Shut up completely

One of my favorite proverbs is “silence is gold”. I love her on several levels at once. She reminds us that real wisdom can open up to us if we are silent, do not ask for trouble and listen to intuition and the Universe. Wisdom will flow from us in a stream. And what is pouring out of our mouths … Look at me! I'll tell you five million things about myself! You will love me! I will laugh at myself so that no one else dares to do this, and I do not look like a fool.

Words are an important tool for connecting with people to share information, love, jokes, ideas, fried chicken recipes with them. The more you slow down and remain silent, the higher the chance that you will make the right choice. The more likely you are to ask the question "Why was I going to say this?"

One of the best ways to get past the noise barrier and discover what lies deep within us is through meditation. Sitting in silence. Even if you do this for five minutes a day, you simply will not believe the results and will soon become silent.

Set a timer, sit comfortably, focus on your breathing, notice what thoughts are coming to you, and gently push them away, pay attention to inhalation and exhalation.

I highly recommend keeping a notebook handy. Write down everything you want to remember in it, and then study it in more detail. Before meditating, ask yourself what you are struggling with. For example: "What thoughts about money are blocking my energy flow?"

Another great exercise is visualization. Imagine for five to ten minutes that you have already achieved wealth. Let's say you want to get a lot of money to take your family to Barcelona. Imagine yourself there. Note how you feel, what smells you inhale, where you stopped, what you see, eat, buy, how you shout at a mischievous taxi driver. Think about how well other people treat you and this trip, how you feel about yourself. Don't let go of this feeling.

And pay attention if some terrible things suddenly appear on the surface. Thoughts that you do not deserve to travel, that you are selfish, that people around the world are dying, and you are spending money in the Ham Museum. Write down whatever comes to mind and start asking questions.

3. Talk to money as a partner

Whether you know it or not, you are in a relationship with money. If you don't have them, then draw a parallel. If you treated people the way you treat money, you would be lonely at a birthday party.

Write a letter to money as if it were a living person. I consider this to be one of the best exercises. Earlier my letter looked like this.

I had a relationship with money, which I would describe with the word "swing". The same thing happens for most people. In general, it's a miracle that I managed to sketch such a letter. My energy, trying to lure money, blocked their arrival.

Here are excerpts from readers' letters. They are meant to show you how much you are not alone in your crazy thoughts about money.

“Expensive money! I feel confident with you. And I also want to spend you. I think with you I am generous in relation to others. But sometimes you leave without saying goodbye. You are like a lover who appears only when he wants to. But I always want you. I get upset and scared when you leave. What if you never come back ?! I seem to be a bad person. Why can't you just be with me and rejoice?"
“Expensive money! I love you, respect you, and try very hard to use you wisely. But sometimes I feel like I'm letting you down. I need to work hard or I don't deserve you. I know that together we can do great things: arrange wonderful vacations, please my family, help charities. Yet very often I feel that I do not deserve you."
“Expensive money! I love you and I am afraid of you. It would be great to have enough of you, but I'm scared to admit it. It's like I'm becoming a bad person. I also don't know what I would do if I made a bunch of you. I feel that I would simply give everything, because I do not know anything about investments. I guess I'm blocking your arrival, because I don't want to look like a fool."
“Expensive money! I love it when we are together and I want you to be safe. This is how you can help me when something terrible happens in my life. But I'm afraid that if there are too many of you, people around you will despise me. Or my husband will try to take you away from me. I have no education or skills that would help me have as many of you as I want."
“Expensive money! I just hate you. I hate that you hurt me physically when I see the bills. It makes me sick if I look at a student loan. I hate that you have such power over me. I want to devote my life to helping people. But I feel the need to work where I don't like in order to earn you more. Let's start with a clean slate. I want you to have an abundance of you instead of fear, anger and grief."

I have heard of a monkey trap used in parts of Africa and India. People take a box, make a hole in it, throw a banana inside and leave it in places where monkeys gather. When a monkey sees a box, it sticks its paw inside, grabs a banana and is trapped, because the paw cannot be pulled out along with the fruit. She just needs to throw a banana, but she doesn't.

I don’t remember when I heard this story for the first time, but it is often told by experts in the field of self-development. I'm completely sure this is nonsense. First, how does the monkey know that there is a banana in the box? Secondly, how to catch her when she is caught? Are they there, hanging around in the jungle all day, smoking, playing cards and waiting with nets at the ready? I went to a website, and it said that hunters quickly put a monkey in a vat. What unimaginable bullshit!

But I decided to write this story anyway. There are three reasons for this:

I may be wrong, and she may be true.
She illustrates my words too well. This is a great metaphor for how we hold onto narrow-minded ideas about money.
What I'm trying to say is that we're making up all sorts of bullshit. And we need to stop doing this if we want to change our lives and be free. So it's better to come up with bullshit to illustrate than a story that can be bullshit in and of itself?

We choose to stay within our stories because we are falsely benefiting from them. We have a personality: we are beggars. We blame anyone for our poverty but ourselves ("I have no time; I have seven children; the economy is going to hell; I can't find a pen to write a must-have list"). We don't want to push ourselves out of our comfort zone and risk being defeated, looking like idiots, losing money, changing and being different from family and friends. The list is endless, but it comes down to one phrase. You have to want the dream more than you want the drama.

Since we are pumping your limited views, I want to say one thing. Do not stick too much on overcoming blocks, otherwise you will forget to change your life. I saw many cases in which people simply became obsessed with problems, kept diaries, went to psychologists, cried, deconstructed their “I”. All this was just another excuse not to change.

Therefore, I want you to do several things at the same time. Explore your story and go forward. Again, huge scary leaps forward are the best way to scare fears and make them come to the surface. It is two in one: you advance and you deal with the inner demons.

The key to success is to move forward and conquer fears, not to go into endless introspection.

Remember that seminar at which I realized what was happening with my attitude towards my dad? So, I'm not proud of what I did then. I didn’t find eighty-five thousand dollars and I didn’t move towards the goal. I went into the shadows. I focused on fear, doubt, and anxiety instead of working on the opportunity. I hesitated. I didn't sign the contract and jump into the next chapter of my life. I slipped out of the conference room and went home. I would like to say that the amount was insane, but in fact, I just did not have enough determination (in the end, I earned exactly the same amount a year later and went to study with another coach).

This is the key point. When you hit the bull's-eye and understand what is holding you back, act immediately. You are struggling with very deep and very successful things. If you hesitate to get a hint, you give them a chance to win you over again. Doubt is the crack through which all your favorite excuses will enter. They will drown your resolve and drive you back into your comfort zone. Listen to your intuition, trust Universal Reason, believe that your wish is already coming true, and jump like the coolest dude in the world! YOU CAN!

Jen Cinsero, Don't Noah: A Useful Book for Those in Financial Difficulties

Jen Cinsero is a coach and author of popular books on finance. Until more than 40 years, she lived in a converted garage, dressed in second-hand clothes and could not afford to have her teeth fixed. Jen now travels all over the world, staying only in five-star hotels.

In the new book “Don't Noah. The age-old wisdom that says: only those who stopped complaining about fate can become rich,”she explains how she managed to change herself, and shares strategies for reconfiguring financial thinking.