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2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44
There is nothing wrong with striving for excellence. The danger lies in the deceptive ease of achieving the goal.
Perfectionism is an absolute pursuit of the ideal, which sometimes does not bring us closer to what we want, but makes our life completely unbearable. And all because we only imagine a wonderful result, and not a difficult path to it.
Expectation and reality
If we understand from the beginning that it will be difficult to achieve what we want, repeated failed attempts do not cause despair. Yes, things are moving slowly and uneasy, but no one expected otherwise.
A high bar begins to poison our lives only when we hope to quickly jump to it, but this does not happen. In this case, it begins to seem to us that we are mediocre, weak or unlucky. In fact, our failures are normal stages on a long and thorny path to our cherished goal.
Perfectionism becomes a problem not when we set ambitious goals for ourselves, but when we underestimate the difficulty of achieving them.
Much of our disappointment stems from a lack of information. We have no idea how much work others have put into such achievements and how much it cost them to bring their ideas to perfection. As a result, we suffer from the fact that we cannot write a novel in six months or fly up the career ladder by the age of 30.
If perfectionism gets in the way of your life, it's not because you want too much. You just made a slight mistake in your preliminary calculations.
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