15 secrets of a happy marriage

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

In real life, you can achieve that very "and they lived happily ever after." Certainly not in a couple of days or months. It will take a lot of constant small actions and decisions, and on the part of both partners. Just don't wait for that joyful day when happiness comes. You need to find it daily in simple things and wise relationships.

1. Don't Postpone Happiness

We often expect that family happiness will come with the purchase of an apartment, a car, a new good job or additional education. No. We must be happy now and with what we have.

2. Be grateful and talk about it to your loved one

Gratitude breeds happiness. Find reasons for gratitude even in the most ordinary things. And most importantly, don't forget to express it. That magic word "thank you" actually works wonders and should be used more often in marriage. “Thank you for what you are doing for me”, “Thank you for fixing the faucet”, “Thank you for being so cute”, “Thank you for a delicious dinner” - look for reasons to thank, and you will find them.

3. Trust each other

A jealousy marriage won't last long. Trust your spouse and do not give reasons not to trust you.

4. Avoid quarrels

Quarrels over little things are the biggest pitfall of a marriage. Feel the approach of a quarrel - cool down: take a walk, take a shower, take a break. When the emotions subside a little, you can talk calmly.

5. Show your love physically

Touch each other, hug, kiss, hold hands. A healthy sexual relationship is very important, but you shouldn't just focus on it. Any abuse does not lead to good. It destroys romantic love and the natural beauty of intimacy in marriage.

6. Be honest when it comes to finances

Family happiness is impossible if there is misunderstanding, especially when it comes to money.

7. Surprise each other

Do something unexpected: leave a note in your pants pocket; give a flower when you meet her from work; make a small gift; arrange an unexpected romantic dinner or send SMS with a declaration of love.

8. Compliment each other

Tell us how you like the smile, character, voice, eyes, hair of a loved one. That you value him as a wonderful parent for your child or as a professional at work. Your loved one should know that you admire him.

9. Support each other

Support each other in personal and professional projects, during days of illness, sadness or weakness. Help overcome difficulties. A marriage is like a long journey in a fragile boat: if one passenger starts rocking it, the other must keep it afloat, otherwise both will drown.

10. Move in one direction

Happiness in marriage is possible only if the spouses have the same outlook on life, similar values and interests, behavior and goals.

11. Remain who you were when you met

At the beginning of a relationship, we are all amazing, attractive and do thousands of things to show our partner our best qualities. After some time, an understanding comes of what kind of person is actually next to us, what his shortcomings are, how he behaves in various situations. It is natural for a mature relationship to develop into marriage.

But after the wedding, some calm down and do not consider it necessary to try to please their loved one. Suddenly they feel that most of the time at home they can look unkempt, rude and grumpy. Of course, it is difficult to keep the body and face the same as in youth: age and gravity are merciless. However, there is much that can be done to stay in good physical, intellectual, moral and emotional health. A good marriage is a perpetual motion.

12. Have a conversation

Conversation solves problems.

13. Forget selfishness

Taking care of your partner's well-being is one of the most important things in achieving family happiness. Put selfishness aside and try to take care of your partner the same way you care for yourself.

14. Be faithful in thought, word and action

Happiness is a subtle matter. How often marriages fell apart due to the fact that one of the spouses fell in love with someone and could not get it out of my head. And in the end it ended with a serious mistake. If you sense danger, run away from temptation.

There are always three fooled people in treason.

Carlos Drummond de Andrade poet

15. Ask forgiveness and goodbye

We are all imperfect. After making a mistake, do not waste time, sincerely ask for forgiveness as soon as possible. And when a loved one hurts your feelings - forgive him. For both spouses to have a fulfilling life, it is important to be able to ask for forgiveness and forgive.

In other words, the main secret of a happy marriage is to do good, to be wise in words, actions and thoughts. Treat your partner the way you want him to treat you. And if you want to understand how a word or decision will affect your marriage, imagine yourself in the place of your partner, and you will understand how to act.