8 ways people like you better

1. Smile

It sounds simple, but it really works. The brain reacts to a smile (not even completely sincere) by releasing endorphins, which cheers you up. Plus, smiling is contagious.

For people, your body language and facial expressions are much more important than words or your tone of voice. Your smile is an invitation to immediately relax, it disarms and creates a pleasant atmosphere.

“You shouldn't just smile at everyone, though,” says Tim Sanders, author of The Likeability Factor. - The smile must be real. In any case, you should always smile back."

When you smile back, you show friendliness and sincerity at the same time. Often people do not answer with a smile, if, for example, they do not know the person who smiled at them.

When you return the smile, you are like saying, "I like you too." This makes you more attractive to the other person.

2. Watch your body language

We have not gone as far from our cave ancestors as we would like to think. Our brains continue to look for danger in our surroundings and assess the degree of threat posed by other people by their body language.

You don't have to be dangerous to please a person. Therefore, along with a smile, you can use other visual cues: raise your eyebrows, tilt your head to one side.

Tilting the head opens access to the carotid artery. This is how you demonstrate trust. It sounds strange, but it proves once again that we are not so far from the wild ancestors as we would like to think.

Our brains are constantly on the lookout for threats in the environment. Stressful situations, for example, meeting with clients, are assessed as potentially dangerous. After this, a defensive reaction turns on, and the body unconsciously takes a defensive position.

By eliminating the physical signals of tension and replacing them with a smile and an open body position, you can cope with this reaction, feel less stressed, and appear more attractive to other people.

3. Make Others Feel Good

If you want people to like you, make them feel better in your presence, see themselves in a favorable light. You need to shift the focus away from yourself and pay more attention to those with whom you are communicating.

There are many ways to do this: gratitude, recognition, direct eye contact, compliments, asking for advice. All of these ways make other people feel important, right, wise.

Avoid direct flattery - it is alarming and repulsive. Instead, observe the person's condition closely. For example, if he looks happy, ask, "Did you seem to have had a good day?" If your interlocutor replies, "I just closed the deal," you can say, "You must have done a good job." The person will leave you in a good mood and will treat you better in the future.

4. Get involved

If during the dialogue you make the interlocutor feel like the most significant person in the world, then you will automatically become more attractive and pleasant for him.

Turn off and put your phone away, look the person in the eye, and fully immerse yourself in the conversation. If you come to dine together, pay no attention to anyone else, except, perhaps, the waiter.

Assess the details of your surroundings as you talk. Maybe there is a barrier of glasses or cups between you and your interlocutor? If so, remove it.

5. Be interesting

The most interesting and significant person for every person is himself. Therefore, people are very fond of talking about themselves.

First, ask the person about their favorite projects or activities, about something that really excites them. Listen carefully to what he has to say. These conversations often don't take even five minutes, but they will be the best five minutes of your conversation.

Then you can ask clarifying questions to find out a little more (but do not turn it into an interrogation), or listen and share similar experiences. When you share your story, you connect, you find something in common, and people love to connect with those who are like them.

Finding common ground is a classic technique that helps establish rapport. You can find common activities, work moments, hobbies, but it will take time. The easiest and most effective way is to find common ground in the person of a mutual friend who works in the same field as your interlocutor.

6. Be visible

We like to communicate more with people we know: with colleagues, neighbors or people we often meet in the gym.

“Getting to know has a simple effect on people, which means being more visible,” says Theo Tsaousides, neuropsychologist and author of Brainblocks: Overcoming the 7 Hidden Barriers to Success).

Presence is important, but it must not be allowed to turn into persecution. For example, you can drink coffee in the morning in the same cafe as the person you want to like, or comment on their posts on social networks. This is a way to show yourself, to communicate that you remember this person.

7. Give and help more

Whoever you meet, first of all think about how you can help that person. It doesn't always pay off right away, but when the time comes, it works 100%.

When you help someone, you show that you value that person. This is a whole philosophy that contributes to building relationships with others.

If you take this attitude, you start to think differently. If you consider the field of business, then you begin to treat customers differently. You are already thinking not only about how to benefit from them, but also about how to make them more valuable and meaningful.

Tim Sanders has an easy way to achieve this goal. In the course of each conversation, you should strive to give advice or give something to the interlocutor. This will make you stand out from other people and make you more attractive.

8. Respect the opinions of others

You don't have to agree with everyone, but the people you are talking to should feel heard.

“Treat people's feelings as facts,” says Tim Sanders. "For example, if a customer complains, listen seriously and reassure them that their complaints will be immediately reviewed and taken into account."

When you say the simple phrase, “I can imagine how you feel,” you provide the other person with an important psychological advantage. He understands that he is not alone in his feelings, that it is absolutely normal to experience them.

The person feels that their thoughts matter whether you agree with them or not. And it makes you even more pleasant to talk to.