How to behave when your child is in pain

Don't react violently

This is the most important advice. If you don't learn to stay calm, your child will forever remember your alarm. He can climb trees carefree, roll down a high hill, or quickly cycle off a slope. But your scream, full of horror and expectation of the worst, will scare him, dispel his self-confidence and lead to the very fall that you feared.

When a child scratches his knee on the asphalt, your frightened face will instantly tell him that it is dangerous and therefore painful.

Don't just smile and chant that everything will be fine. Even a baby will hear falsehood in your words.

Instead, try not to show excitement, even if you're bursting inside. Walk up to your child quickly, say a few soothing phrases, and give him a hug. In a parental embrace, he will immediately feel safe. By hugging him, you can change your mask of indifference to a grimace of horror, unnoticed by the child.

Prepare yourself

Part of the source of your anxiety is the fear that you will not be able to help the child. But if you are prepared in case of injury, you will become much calmer.

Collect a first aid kit with essential items. Get a handy box or purse and put in an antibacterial ointment, anti-inflammatory agent, bandages, plasters, tweezers, and whatever else you might need to disinfect wounds, remove splinters, and other injuries. Always take this first aid kit with you, even if you plan to just walk around the house. This will save you nerves and, if necessary, will help the child.

And for even more peace of mind, you can master the skills of first aid.

Do not be distructed

When you are sitting on the playground, your hand probably just reaches out to flip through the feeds of social networks. Of course, while the child is busy playing, you have a little time for yourself. But you shouldn't devote all your attention to the smartphone.

If you are following a child, then the moment he falls will not be a shocking surprise to you.

It is very likely that you will have time to prevent this. You will not be horrified by his sudden cry, because you just noticed that he only stumbled slightly. And often hysterics are arranged by children in order to attract attention.

If the baby really gets hit or scratched, you don't have to ask him what happened. You just get out your first aid kit, take a few deep breaths and help him.

Lower the sensitivity threshold

This is advice for both parents and children. A fall or other unpleasant situation is already frightening, and fear intensifies the pain even more. But if you get used to such things, then they will no longer seem so scary.

You have to let your child fall. Fall a lot.

Naturally, this does not mean that you have to drop or push it on purpose. Present him with roller skates or a bicycle and teach him how to ride. Or take him to a trampoline park. Make the falls not cause fear, but fun, joy, and even excitement.

This will teach your child not to dwell on the slight pain of a minor fall. He will understand that after that you can just get up, dust off and continue playing. This is a very important skill. You will not be able to be with your child all the time. Sooner or later it will fall without you. But both he and you will perceive it much more calmly.