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2023 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-07-28 10:38
You don't have to pretend that nothing is happening. Time is a very important resource.
This article is part of the Auto-da-fe project. In it, we declare war on everything that prevents people from living and becoming better: breaking laws, believing in nonsense, deceit and fraud. If you've come across a similar experience, share your stories in the comments.
Who steals your time
1. Constantly late
Force majeure happens, and everyone can stay behind due to circumstances beyond his control. But there are people who simply do not know how to come on time. And the most unbearable thing is that they really don't see anything special in this. Just think, I had to wait only half an hour.
Meanwhile, half an hour in the XXI century is a lot, and I want to spend this time usefully. For example, in 30 minutes you can do a full body workout or bake something for tea. Instead, you are forced to stand in the wind or study the menu for the seventh time under the watchful gaze of the waiter.
Arriving on time is a rule of good form. If a person is constantly late, he does it solely because he does not want to come as expected.
My college friend was 100% late for appointments, and not just with me. For her, it was in the order of things. She could call 10 minutes before the hour X and say that she just woke up and would be late. At the same time, you have already spent a lot of time getting yourself together, and now you cannot do anything else, because you do not set a new time - you are supposed to just wait.
Alas, this is the case when wisdom comes over the years, and now I see many ways to minimize the problem - even radical ones. Then I was much more patient and rebelled not even for the tenth time.
2. Not fulfilling their part of the task
Much in life and at work in particular has to be done as a team. And if its members do not perform their duties in parallel, and you have to join at some stage, then temporary losses can become enormous. You have to watch with anguish as your chances of completing the task on time and not staying overnight at work diminish.
Anna suffered from the carelessness of her colleagues.
I worked as an editor for a daily newspaper. Almost every day it turned out that the journalists swayed for a very long time, by the end of the working day they wrote texts and I had to stay until night to read them. And I would not mind if it was about urgent material. But, alas, this happened with the turnover, and only because some did not think at all about the production process as a whole.
Such people lie in wait for us at school. They ask to solve an example for them, because "it is difficult for you or something." They play on our sense of self-importance, because they "will turn out badly, not like you." They suffer and complain.
It is not always possible to see through the manipulator right away, and I really want to help. And then it turns out that you were just doing someone else's job.
With age, such people pump their skills, and it becomes even more difficult to stay away from them.
4. Violating agreements
People who are late, though enraged, still come - some benefit can be derived from contact with them. Much worse are those who simply disappear from the radar without warning. This is especially annoying if you found 1-2 hours in a busy schedule, moved other meetings for the sake of this, and ended up with a bunch of conditionally free time, which you have to fill artificially.
Pavel Faced a problem hairdresser.
After a long search, I found a hairdresser who cuts like in a barbershop, but for much less money. Naturally, everything is not so simple, and you have to go to her to the other end of the city. Once I came to a blizzard because I had a tape. There was no hairdresser, and she answered the call that she was ill. It happens, but it would be worth warning. However, this is not all. Six months later, the situation repeated itself, only she also turned off the phone. As a result, part of the day off is wasted.
5. Those who do not know how to clearly formulate the task
In everyday life, it's not easy to contact such people, but they will find you at work - the very right-handed people who have to start everything from scratch several times.
It would seem that everything is nowhere simpler: you discuss the project before it starts, do your part of the work, add the final touches with the customer, disperse satisfied with each other. In fact, it feels like many clients measure the quality of your work not by what result they get, but by how much you get bored.
As a result, one project takes time, during which it was possible to make three (and you, in fact, did them, you just rejected some of the options).
6. Banned from Google
Some things are easy to figure out if you hit the keyboard 10 times and then double-click the mouse. But still, there are people who torment with questions in the hope that you will find out everything for them. No doubt, the strategy is effective: to find the answers, you have to read and think. If you delegate this, you will get a squeeze with useful information.
Sometimes it is possible to send such a questioner to a search engine immediately. But it happens that he starts with innocent questions, then clarifies something, and now you are already searching on the Internet, overlaid with dictionaries and received a lot of information on a topic you do not need. And time is running out.
Let's decide right away: you can't take any complaints, desire to share and other expressions of emotions as whining. Each person has the right to experience their feelings, this is a guarantee of psychological health.
But there are people who clearly abuse this right. Their problems are always more important than yours. They can complain about life nonstop. And you no longer really understand what is needed from you. Attempts to help solve the problem run up against the endless "yes, but …". It remains to console and sympathize. As a result, such meetings are neither enjoyable nor pleasant - wasted hours.
8. Lovers to call and come without warning
The controversy surrounding phone calls is hotter than the battle for Sokovia. While some are convinced that calling without warning is an invasion of personal space, others shrug their shoulders: "What's wrong?" But the problem is that a person usually dials a number to solve some problem of his own, for example, to dispel boredom, if this is just everyday conversation. But his addressee can be busy with anything.
The right time to answer a phone call is when you sit and wait for it. Everything.
Even if a person is lying on the couch and looking at the ceiling, this is an occupation. Maybe he did some time management miracles to gain that half hour of peace. A telephone conversation requires giving up other things, emotionally involved in the conversation, making some decisions and wasting time. Not everyone likes it.
Unannounced visits are even worse. This should not be done, even if the person you are visiting was born from your egg or sperm. But it seems that in 2019 it is strange to talk about this in more detail.
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How to protect your time
Realize that a person cannot be remade
If you once tried to explain what was wrong, but it didn't work, you shouldn't continue. You're just wasting time again. Solve the problem on your side.
Learn to say no
This is not only about the ability to refuse, but also about allowing yourself not to pick up the phone if it is not a work call, or not opening the door without finding out who has come.
Come up with a backup plan
If you are dealing with a person who is chronically late and do not want or cannot break off relations with him, figure out how to fill the forced pause. Repeat words in a foreign language, read a book.
Another option is to schedule meetings not together, but in the company. Then you don't have to wait until late to start having fun.
Learn from mistakes
Burned about a relationship with a customer who does not know what he wants - check the amount of free edits in the contract. If the whims have to pay, the client, as if by magic, will begin to understand what he needs.
A colleague missed the deadline, and you stayed overnight at work - think about how to no longer be on the same team with him.
Do not tolerate
Those who do not respect other people's time will come up with a million arguments why they are not doing anything terrible. But every minute has been stolen from your life, and it is not that long on an eternal scale.
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