How an extrovert and an introvert get along together

What is the problem

If ice and fire are not as different from each other as you are with your significant other, you may simply be of different psychological types. At the beginning of a relationship, an extrovert and an introvert are usually fascinated by each other. Rather, their dissimilarity unites. But over time, because of this, difficulties arise and lovers wonder how compatible they are at all:

You want to stay at home together, and your half - to go to a crowded party. "Isn't I enough for her?"
He believes that you need to thoroughly discuss everything, and you need time to think about the situation on your own. "Will he even let me breathe freely?"
It hurts you when she says she needs time for herself. "Is she not saying something?"

The easiest way is to take problems with misunderstandings at your own expense or hang on your soul mate a label of a person with whom it is difficult to communicate. However, this strategy is destructive for your relationship. To make communication more open and fruitful, and love sparkled with new colors, try to understand your partner.

How to deal with it

Find out how your partner used to recuperate

Introverts get their energy from spending time with themselves. Communication with other people drains their strength. This is not to say that introverts don't like being around other people or that they are shy. It's just that sometimes your attempts to spend more time with an introvert rob them of their last energy.

Extroverts get their energy from spending time with other people. Left alone with themselves, they lose it. This does not mean that extroverts cannot be alone at all, or that the company of other people is like a drug for them. Just communication gives them new strength.

See that your introverted friend is immersed in reading? Give her the opportunity to enjoy the process. This is one of the activities that introverts enjoy immensely.

Respect the way your spouse recovers energy, and you will notice dramatic changes in her mood and a decrease in tension in your relationship.

Choose the right moment

Do you need to discuss something important? Choose the right moment based not on your mood, but on the mood and psychotype of your partner. This should be done especially carefully if you have bad news or sensitive issues to discuss.

If your soul mate is an extrovert, then you will need a lot of time to discuss. You can't just drop a few words on the go and keep going about your business, putting off the conversation itself for later. The extrovert will want to discuss everything properly and immediately. He will not give you time to think more. So think it over in advance.

If your partner is an introvert, then it will take time for him to process what you say. Therefore, you can use the reverse strategy: put the person up to date in advance, and later discuss all the details together.

Don't look for the problem in yourself

If he goes to the garage when you feel like spending time together, it's not you. If she wants to talk, and you do not find in yourself any strength and desire for conversations, the problem is also not in you. Just remember this once and for all.

Once you understand this, stop transferring your partner's aggression onto yourself. Just let your soul mate recharge the way she used to do it, so that later you can enjoy full communication.

Be prepared to compromise

You cannot demand from your partner that he constantly adapts to you. If you're an introvert, you can't get your loved one to plan ahead for every conversation with you. If you are an extrovert, you shouldn't try to get your soul mate out of her shell by all means. You will not succeed, accept it.

It's hard to make concessions all the time. Try to do this one at a time.

For example, on Saturday, an extrovert gives an introvert a chance to be alone with himself to build up enough energy for a Sunday party. And on Sunday, the introvert will stay at the party for an hour longer, so that his half can enjoy more communication with other people.

Appreciate your partner's strengths

Remember, your significant other's influence makes you a better person. You are enriched as a person.

If you are an introvert, think, you would have made so many wonderful acquaintances if your favorite extrovert didn't pull you out of the house? Surely thanks to your partner you have made new friends. You may have also improved your communication skills and are now less shy about other people. And the decisiveness, openness, spontaneity and charm of extroverts in themselves cannot but delight.

An extrovert, on the other hand, can appreciate the perseverance and perseverance of his partner, a deep and non-standard look at difficult situations. The soul of an introvert is a house with many doors. Opening each of them, you will be surprised and look in a new way at such a seemingly familiar person.