How to get along with coworkers who annoy you

Look at the situation from the other side

Is it trite? But it is effective.

Some people are annoyed by the excessive emotionality of their colleagues or, conversely, lethargy, detachment from the team, or excessive friendliness and importunity. At the same time, you need to somehow find a common language with everyone, if you do not want to go crazy.

Put yourself in the shoes of an annoying coworker. Surely he has reasons for this behavior. Perhaps having a lunch or dinner together will help you better understand the person. Try to get closer, to understand why he is behaving so strangely. As you get to know your coworker better, you will gradually stop noticing his shortcomings.

Look for the positive

There are positive aspects in any situation. Does a colleague constantly crawl on a chair, speak loudly on the phone, use too fragrant perfume? But because of him, you have already replaced your old office chairs with new ones (they broke too often), your boss rarely comes to you (he is also annoyed by a loud voice), mosquitoes do not fly into your office.

In addition, communicating with those who annoy you, you temper your character, gain new experience, strengthen your nerves, and learn not to pay attention to insignificant trifles. This will help you focus more on your work and not be distracted by interference.

Set the rules

It is better to discuss the problem than to hide it. Do not hesitate and do not be afraid of offending someone - speak directly about what you do not like.

If the source of your irritation is constantly chewing on something in the workplace, agree to eat only at lunchtime or only in the kitchen.
If you find it annoying that your coworker asks too many questions or just loves to chat, agree to take a few 15-minute breaks from work when you can discuss the sensitive issue.
For those who are annoyed by violators of personal space (they just come and sit right next to you, look at your monitor, touch your personal belongings), we advise you not to be afraid to voice that it is unpleasant for you and that it is better not to do this.

Use the mirror method

If, for example, you are annoyed by a colleague who constantly criticizes your work, start playing on his own field. Wait for him to make a mistake and do not miss the opportunity to criticize. Nobody likes it when his mistakes become visible. So, most likely, he will back down.

This advice is also suitable for dealing with those who constantly discuss someone, spread rumors and gossip, do not miss the opportunity to rejoice in other people's troubles. As soon as they feel what it is like, they will immediately calm down. Of course, making friends with them will not help you, but such people will understand that you must be reckoned with. As a result, you will work together and stop wasting time on unproductive relationships.