5 tips to help you overcome your inner limitations

Self-confidence can be compared to an icy iceberg floating in the ocean. We often think that we need to climb to the top of this whopper and hoist there a victory flag with the inscription "I did everything just fine." We are truly confident that the iceberg has a peak, and we deliberately strive for it.

Here lies the biggest mistake: the iceberg of our innate idealism has no top, unlike the iceberg in the ocean. We are just ordinary people and rarely do something without a single mistake.

However, we have the ability to inspire ourselves that we need to strive for an abstract ideal. When we do not achieve it, it often leads to despair and frustration, which are not far from depression. This is how internal barriers arise.

Internal barriers are taboos that we set for ourselves voluntarily, while sometimes not even realizing that they are the main obstacles to success.

A few good habits can help you get rid of them and uproot your subconscious belief in false ideals.

1. Control your speech

The first warning sign that you have some kind of internal barriers may be your speech. Watch her. With a high probability, you very often repeat phrases such as "This is impossible" or "I will not succeed." When you feel fear or uncertainty about some issue, they slip very often and indicate that there are things that are hindering you and holding you back. Try to pay attention to this yourself, or find someone who would inform you about annoying reservations.

2. Look for obstacles that stand in the way

Do you feel that you are fixated on some part of your own life? Or maybe there is something in your past that prevents you from living in peace? Or are you overreacting to something?

A little reflection won't hurt anyone. You need to go deeper into yourself, find things that bother you and that you would like to change, and understand why you are unable to move on. This is a very good way to identify the starting point that triggered the emergence of internal barriers.

Shatte identified three main areas that most often serve as the primary sources of all internal prohibitions:

Success. You believe that you must understand absolutely everything and certainly the best, and also achieve everything on your own. None of these requirements are achievable.
Everyday life. Many are convinced that it is their sacred duty to make others happy or fulfill socially imposed social roles. You may feel that other people's interests are more important than your own. Sometimes you can even sacrifice them so as not to incur judgments from others. This path is deliberately false.
Possession of something. This is a vicious circle: you are sure that you will be much happier when you reach a certain position or acquire a thing that you really want. After that, your life should definitely get better, but it remains the same. You waste energy trying to achieve the impossible.

3. Stop doubting

Your inner barriers may have formed in early childhood. Enough time has passed for them to become firmly entrenched in your consciousness, and now they are difficult to eradicate. Once you find these barriers, try to deal with them. Stop doubting, even though it sounds like something from the category of fantasy now. Give yourself a break from constant insecurity, stop driving yourself into a corner.

Andrew D. Wittman team building expert

If you can't do it well, imagine yourself as the hero of a movie who needs to overcome a difficult obstacle. As soon as you slightly muffle your inner voice, which squeaks disgustingly that you will not succeed, ask yourself: "What would I have done in his place?" And the answer is sure to be found!

When you put yourself in the position of a stranger and a stranger, your brain begins to work and look for possible solutions to an existing problem, no longer constrained by any prejudices.

4. Set yourself ambitious goals

Let's say you have set a goal for yourself that you want to achieve by all means. Once you've planned all the steps to get to her, set another over-ambitious goal over her.

New Jersey psychologist and Ph. D. Patricia Farrell is convinced that such a trick will help you move much faster in the right direction. It is designed to take you out of your comfort zone. You may not be able to achieve what you want right away, but you will work hard to get closer to the result. The more you work, the more you begin to feel confident in yourself and in what you are doing. This will help you forget about self-restraint.

5. Forget about autopilot

Andrew Schatte Ph. D.

We have very general ideas about what the world should be like ideally. And the more concrete they become, the easier it is to live and control yourself and the world around you.

All of these internal barriers make you a zombie. It's like you're in autopilot mode, allowing them to manipulate you. When you become aware of this and remove the framework, you are liberated internally.