How to answer wacky questions about your relationship

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

No matter how long you have been together with your soul mate, friends and relatives will still creep into your personal life. Here's how to answer their annoying questions.

When will you get married?

This question is asked, perhaps, to everyone who meets with someone for a long time. But don't be discouraged when you have to hear it again. It is possible that caring relatives are simply trying to connect with you and cannot find a suitable topic of conversation. Or your grandmother is worried about your family well-being.

If someone persistently and purposefully raises this topic, do not lose your temper. Just smile and say, "Don't worry, you'll be the first to know!"

When are you planning to have a baby?

This question hits a sore spot, especially if many years of attempts to give birth have not been crowned with success. Sometimes people are too intrusive and tactless.

Gently let them know that they are overstepping your personal boundaries. You can just laugh it off, like, "We're working on it."

And when will you give birth to the second?

As soon as you have your firstborn, prepare an answer to this question. Answer with humor: "We do not want the second yet, we have the first - perfection itself!"

Do you practice the same religion?

A perfectly reasonable answer in this case would be: “Wow, this is a very unexpected and strange question. Why are you interested in this? Perhaps the person will understand that his question sounded tactless.

In fact, faith is everyone's personal business. There are tons of examples of happy multi-faith families. Although, no doubt, much depends on religious traditions, and the opinion of older relatives sometimes really turns out to be decisive.

How much do you know each other?

Two weeks, six months, five years … Who cares? If you feel that there are notes of condemnation in the question, quickly respond: "It seems to me that all my life."

Is anyone surprised you are moving out so quickly? Just answer: “Really? Usually this is enough time to move to a new level. Perhaps such an answer will hurt the pride of the person asking the question. Everything is individual, remember this.

Is your long-distance relationship serious?

People often judge and do not believe in the happy outcome of long-distance relationships. Many are surprised: “You live in different cities. When are you planning to move?"

These questions can be answered in the same way as the first one: "You will be the first to know about it." This universal short phrase will make it clear that a person has invaded your personal space.

Is he / she going to get a normal job?

By normal work, everyone means their own. For you, for example, a barista or salesperson is quite a good job, but for others it is a hopeless option. And the possibility of making money on the Internet for the older generation is generally incomprehensible.

For those who meddle in their own business, you can say: "I will let him / her know that you are so worried about this." Only be more polite with close relatives.

“Why are you still renting an apartment? When will you buy yours?"

People may not be aware that you are scrupulously saving up for your own home. Or not to understand that you really like your rental apartment and everything suits you.

If you want, tell it as it is. And you can add a little irony: "We will definitely call you when we plan our family budget."

Does he / she spend too much time on his / her hobby?

This can be answered simply and honestly: “It's good that he / she has his / her own interests. I like to see my loved one so carried away."

In the end, everyone should have personal time, which he has the right to spend as he wants. And a hobby brings variety to our life and does not allow us to burn out at work.

Why don't you come to family gatherings together?

This question implies condemnation of your soul mate. Or relatives think your partner doesn't like them.

If in fact there is no enmity between them, just say: "He really wanted to, but, unfortunately, work does not allow."