4 Tips for an Introvert to Become More Confident in Communication

1. Practice in public speaking

Of course, performing and just talking to someone are two different things. But some skills do overlap. For example, in both cases, you need to be able to tell a story and listen to others. In both cases, it is important to get rid of words-parasites and awkward pauses.

These skills are well developed in public speaking clubs, to which you can join free of charge or for a nominal fee. Participants train there together, do exercises and give short speeches on given topics. At such meetings, a relaxed and friendly atmosphere reigns, and therefore it is much easier to overcome the fear of public speaking.

If there is nothing like this near you, try practicing with your friends. Agree to prepare short speeches on a topic, and then arrange discussions. After that, ordinary communication will no longer scare you.

2. Don't try to pretend to be an extrovert

Don't think that people won't like you just because you are an introvert. And that you definitely need to be more sociable or open in order for your friends to love you. There is nothing wrong with reticence and restraint. And it's perfectly normal not to want to chat every night.

Remember that your goal is to become a better version of yourself, not a completely different person.

By imitating the behavior of extroverts, you will simply get tired and not enjoy the communication. Appreciate your own qualities and use them. Be sincere - it will really win people over to you.

3. Learn to listen to the interlocutor

Communication skills are not only about speaking, but also about listening. And the latter is often even more important. People are always primarily interested in themselves and their hobbies. If you know how to listen, they will want to talk to you, because you can give the interlocutor what he needs. Plus, when you listen carefully, you involuntarily pay attention to social cues.

And the main part of success in communication is just the ability to react and respond to the place.

To become a good listener (and thus a pleasant conversationalist), don't interrupt people or try to put in your opinion right away. Don't think about what you can tell yourself. Let someone else speak up, ask questions, show real interest. This will also help you better understand who you are talking to.

4. Look for people with common interests

It is quite difficult for you to go to a meeting solely for the purpose of making new acquaintances: you have to painfully search for something in common with those present, but it may not be found. And when you initially have common interests, the chance of making friends is much higher.

Think about what fascinates you. Maybe you like some kind of sport, cinema, foreign languages or old cars. Look for hotspots or themed events. Then it will be really interesting for you to communicate with people and you will more easily find points of contact with them.