5 ways to instantly become more confident

1. Stop slouching

If you maintain good posture and walk with your head held high, you will become more confident in an instant.

To begin with, stretch out as far as you can. Pulling your shoulder blades down and back will be awkward if you spend a lot of time hunched over your desk. Raise your chin and look straight ahead. Stop looking down while walking: there is a whole world in front of you.

If you have posture problems, do a couple of back exercises.

Spending a month fighting slouching is a huge step towards a confident look. Soon you will be able to hold your back correctly without thinking.

2. Slow down the pace

When you are nervous, your voice sounds higher than usual and you speak faster than you think.

If you are anxious when speaking in public, try to speak slower than you feel like, and remember to breathe. You may feel that you are speaking too slowly, but from the outside it will sound good.

3. Smile

When you are faced with difficulties or inconveniences, it is easy to withdraw into yourself. And this probably means that you look very sad. Pretty soon you will have a reputation for being "that strange man in the corner." So smile. To be honest, practice: stand in front of a mirror, close your eyes and lower them down. Then open them while lifting the corners of your lips. This is your real smile.

4. Win at the peepers

Unless you work from home all the time, sitting in your underwear and talking only to your cat, then you probably interact with people a lot. For example, with colleagues at lunch, a salesman in a store, a waitress in a cafe, or with random fellow travelers.

When was the last time you looked a person in the eye before he turned away? If you are unsure of yourself, then most likely you were always the first to flinch. Now you will become the one who does not look away.

Think of each interaction as a mini-battle.

As long as you smile and blink, you won't look creepy. If you have always been shy, the first few times it will be very difficult for you, but you need to get through it. Once you take action, you will quickly realize that others are just as nervous as you are and will quickly turn away if you look them in the eyes long enough.

5. Remove the label from yourself

Sometimes people cannot believe that they have become different. For example, already being thin, they still continue to feel full. It's time to get rid of the label you've put on yourself.

If you feel out of place in a situation, everyone around you probably feels it too. We all have doubts. They exist on a subconscious level and usually interfere with getting what we strive for. Just stop thinking so much and get busy.

If you are interested in someone, walk up to him or her within three seconds. Anything beyond this will force you to over-analyze the situation and end up doing nothing.

Remember, if you don't ask, the answer will always be no. So you have nothing to lose.

Introduce yourself to strangers at the party right away. Throw away all doubts: you will be considered cool and confident.

Bonus

Here's your homework: walking down the street with your head held high and a wide smile on your face, meet the eyes of at least five passers-by and say a simple “hello” to them. Remember they should be the first to look away.

You will feel awkward at first, but who cares? You will never see these people again. Then you can move on to more complex tasks. For example, strike up a conversation with a stranger or give a speech in front of an audience.

And finally, with great power comes great responsibility. There is a fine line between confidence and overconfidence, so don't overdo it. Change yourself, but don't change yourself.