What prevents you from living in harmony with yourself

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How to become happy and find harmony? Not everyone can find the answer to this question. In this guest article, Elena Bikulova tries to find out what things prevent us from taking a step towards a happy and bright life.

Partner dependence

This is perhaps one of the main reasons preventing us from finding inner harmony and feeling truly happy. When people meet, their inner worlds collide. Each of them is beautiful in its own way and has its own unique characteristics. Before this meeting, each of us went a certain way, made mistakes and gained valuable experience. And at some point, these worlds begin to converge more and more: we share the feelings and emotions of each other, share our experiences or plans for the future with our partner, we begin to gradually introduce a person into our environment.

It would seem, what's wrong here? We all dream of healthy and harmonious relationships in which we wish to share each other's interests. Only sometimes it gets out of our control under the onslaught of surging romantic feelings, we dissolve in a person, forgetting about ourselves.

I would call it a kind of mimicry. We are enthusiastically watching the life of a partner, his hobbies become our hobbies. We share personal victories with each other and celebrate joint ones, and so on knurled.

Everything would be fine, but for a second, imagine that this person is no longer in your life. What will be left of you after he leaves? Will your life continue to be interesting and colorful? Will you be in a constant process of creating something? Or will you wait for a new collision?

Comfort zone: create or destroy

Recently, the comfort zone has been the most discussed topic among psychologists and bloggers. Gloss is teeming with articles on ways to get out of this notorious zone in order to improve living standards and self-confidence.

Undoubtedly, leaving your comfort zone is very important and beneficial, but you cannot do it thoughtlessly. First you need to understand where your comfort zone begins and ends. There is a very thin line between what you are simply not used to and what can be a real challenge for you. It is difficult to leave the zone of comfort even for the most relaxed and sociable, let alone people suffering from various kinds of phobias.

You cannot break someone who breaks himself day in and day out himself.

J. Nesbo Norwegian writer and musician

Indeed, it is difficult to break the self-confidence and self-confidence of a person who is in constant creation of himself through constant growth and exit from the familiar environment. The reason for the discomfort at the first steps in a new business sometimes lies not in the fact that it is difficult for a person to adapt to an unusual way of life, but in the fact that he does not need it.

It is vital to break yourself in order to stay in the stream, but you need to be aware of why you are doing this, sensibly assess all possible losses. Otherwise, constantly breaking yourself, you will turn into an empty vessel, you will lose what was given to you by nature itself, and your life guidelines will go astray.

Tearing off the masks

How often do we hide our essence from prying eyes and ourselves. We try to be like someone, look back at other people's successes, in some way envy the people passing by, sometimes we even get angry and offended. Without a doubt, there are many role models who have achieved unprecedented success and are living a different life: bright, devoid of routine and daily early rise to work that does not bring pleasure.

But why get angry and give up when we have the power to change the course of events? Our life is not given to us in order to be in the form of a victim and complain about the injustice of fate. It is necessary to act and preferably without delay.

Don't like your hairstyle or wardrobe? Change and re-create yourself. You should admire your own reflection in the mirror, and not turn around at every random person you meet with the thoughts: "She is so beautiful and well-groomed, why is everything different with me …"

You do not need to suppress feelings and the realization that you do not like to be what circumstances force you to be. Take off the mask of normality and routine and stop worrying about what other people will think of you. Think about it: many of them are worthy of respect and admiration precisely because they once stopped caring about other people's opinions.

Maybe at that very moment, when you release your inner beast, the realization of what you want to devote your life to will come to you. And as you know, one of the main components of happiness is work that brings us pleasure.

Endless cycle of desires

We always want to get something or achieve something, and this is wonderful, otherwise it would be impossible to talk about any development and inner growth. What's the catch?

Everyone has their own dream: a new pair of shoes or a dress, the most sophisticated SUV or supercar, an apartment or a villa on the coast, and someone has a dream - to escape from a small town and conquer the peaks of the world. But after the fulfillment of these desires, new ones come, and this can continue indefinitely. The feeling of happiness quickly turns into a faded joy, which is replaced by satisfaction with the state of affairs.

But, as you know from your student years, satisfactory - it's only three, and which of us wants to live life on a C? We come up with a new dream for ourselves, worry about its fulfillment again, get angry if something goes wrong, until it finally comes true. Then everything is new - an endless cycle of desires.

Does this bring us happiness? Hardly. After all, we cannot keep within ourselves the happiness we feel from the fulfillment of our little, but from this no less cherished dream.

We have forgotten how to live in the present moment - the moment of fulfillment of our cherished desire.

As long as we are in this crazy race, we will not be able to feel happy when our dreams come true.

Learn to be happy alone with yourself and enjoy every moment of life. Understand that not a single person in this world can give you a sense of harmony if a hurricane of passions is raging inside you, consisting of dissatisfaction with your position, self-doubt and fears.

3 rules to help you feel life in all its manifestations

1. Broaden your horizons. Find a new hobby, meet interesting people, start playing sports, travel, do something new and unusual for you.
2. Listen to your inner voice. You need to realize what you like, not your environment. Keep your uniqueness and continue to be an interesting conversationalist.
3. Forget about what happened before, and do not think ahead. The past gave you invaluable experience, and your future depends on what you do here and now. Concentrate all your strength on what you are doing at the moment. You will see how much easier and faster you will move towards your goals.

Do not be afraid of the unknown and innovation. In any case, you will remain a winner, because you will have experience behind you that will help you move forward.