Where to meet in 2020

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

How to find a partner for one night or for life.

In the Internet

Applications

The dating app segment is huge. But pay attention only to popular ones: they have more users, which means there is more choice. They work on a similar principle: the algorithm suggests candidates who fit your needs and are close by. You select those you like, but you can start a conversation only in case of mutual sympathy.

pros

• You start communicating only with those you like, which eliminates at least the unsympathetic.
• Candidates are close to you, so dating is easy.
• Here relationships are struck for one night, and for many nights, and for years - it all depends on your goals. And they also find friends here
• Potential partners of both sexes can be selected.
• The phone is always at hand - you can improve your personal life on the job.

Minuses

• You choose a book by its cover, but anything can be hidden underneath. You run the risk of weeding out an ugly but interesting person.
• If you don't really like people on the streets, don't naively assume that there are only gorgeous candidates and candidates in the app. There are still the same people from the streets.
• Be prepared to receive personal photos of other people's genitals and obscene offers.
• Men willingly offer quick sex and behave cheekily in correspondence, but many merge if the girl agrees to bed adventures without long preludes.
• Some apps are only suitable for large cities.

1. Tinder

Popular and very simple dating app. The algorithm offers photos of people that fit your needs and are close to you. You swipe them with your finger to the left if the candidacy is so-so, and to the right if the person interests you. If the pair matches, you can start texting, and then everything depends only on you.

2. Pure

The sex dating app is designed, obviously, to find partners for bed pleasures. Everything is done on condition of relative anonymity: you do not need to specify your mail, phone number, log in via social networks. Only an avatar and location are required.

You have an hour to find someone cute on the map and make an appointment with him. After 60 minutes, the correspondence will be automatically destroyed. For men, the application is paid, which allows you to cut off people with frivolous intentions.

The main advantage of the application is that everyone knows what you are here for, so you can do without boring correspondence. Although some users and in the sex dating app may tire you with conversations and then disappear. And your time will be wasted.

Irina Nim psychologist-sexologist "Studio of changes" Wings ", gestalt therapist

Sex as the purpose of dating is a perfectly healthy desire. You have the right to just want sex and control your body and your desires as you see fit. This also applies to the fact that you have every right to get up and refuse sex at any time, even the most intimate one.

3. Happn

The app shows you the people you have crossed paths with, whether you walked the same routes or bought a baguette at the same French bakery.

Dating websites

Most of the dating sites have got mobile versions, and yet for many they are associated with desktop computers. There are also conceptual differences.

Apps with their system of mutual sympathy are like a beach: you touch the water with your toes and then maybe go deeper. A dating site is like diving from a pier, because anyone can write to you. And not the fact that you will like it.

It all starts with a questionnaire: you add a photo, write about your interests, indicate who you are looking for, and go ahead. Users say that in SZ (and this is the abbreviation for dating sites on the Internet) you have to wade through thousands of inappropriate messages. But at the same time, some manage to find a couple here for a long-term relationship.

Personally, I think SZ is the safest type of dating. Here you can practice and eventually understand that there are a lot of people and there are those who will answer you yes. You can also experiment with ways to get to know and see which one suits you personally.

Irina Nim

pros

• Large selection of candidates.
• You can correspond for a long time before a date and get to know each other well.
• Geography is not limited: look for a partner from anywhere.
• There are search filters by which you can “reject” unsuitable candidates.

Minuses

• Websites are focused on commercial success, so you have to pay for additional functionality.
• There is a risk of encountering scammers.

1. Badoo

A multilingual dating site with a wide geography. It works like a social network looking for people to communicate or relationships. Now added matching of interests function like in Tinder

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2. Mamba

Dating site with a 15-year history and a huge audience. Convenient search for a variety of parameters. A huge number of positive user reviews.

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Social networks

You can meet in social networks in three ways:

• in dating groups;
• looking through other people's profiles;
• in thematic communities.

The latter option is more suitable for a long-term relationship, since, obviously, you already have common interests.

pros

• You can see a person's profile and learn a lot about him.
• There is a chance you will meet someone who is not actively looking for dating and would be unavailable in apps and on the NW.
• The fact that a person is no longer free is obvious in social networks in most cases, and you will avoid disappointment.

Minuses

No anonymity for you. Even if you have closed everything that can be closed from prying eyes, this does not guarantee anything

In the reality

Fast dates

Traditional scenario: a woman sits at a table, and every few minutes a new man joins her. During this time, it is necessary to have time to make the right impression so that at the end the organizers would allow the exchange of contacts.

Pros:

A lot of acquaintances and a minimum of time spent

Minuses

• A few minutes may not be enough to feel sympathy.
• Quick dates have a bad reputation: they seem to be resorted to by those who are completely desperate.

Hangouts by interest

A common cause brings together, especially if it requires teamwork. This can be, for example:

• Mind games. It is only on TV that connoisseurs look like an elite club that cannot be entered. In reality, “What? Where? When?" quite a democratic game, and quizzes have moved to bars altogether.
• Bicycle parades. We all have bicycles, common interests, and even a common enemy - people walking on bike paths. During the parade itself, you are unlikely to talk, but before and after it, conversations start by themselves.
• Dog playgrounds. The sociability of dog owners can only be envied. And their memory too, because they know all the furry inhabitants of the area by name. The main thing is to have a pet at the call of your heart, and not for the sake of finding a half.
• Concerts and fan meetings. If you love one artist, you already have a lot in common. And if you were brought together by a fandom, then this is completely serious. Together you will be the perfect Doctor and Rose, Iron Man and Pepper Potts, Sherlock Holmes and Doctor Watson - you never know what your preferences are.

A positive attitude is important. A smile is regarded as an invitation to communicate, approval. If they smile back at you, feel free to take a course towards rapprochement. Remember, trying is not torture, and refusing is not a disaster. The first time is always scary to even smile. But the more often the experience is repeated, the more familiar it becomes.

Irina Nim

pros

• Such acquaintances are the most natural, just like in the good old days.
• You have a lot of common interests, because usually people intersect at such parties, having more than one common hobby.

Minuses

To get acquainted with your interests, you need to have them and be truly passionate

Work

The larger the company, the higher the chances of getting to know each other. In addition to our own office, there are employees of partner organizations, contractors and other contractors, clients who should not be discounted either.

Office romances are not uncommon, but companies struggle to grapple with relationships in the workplace. Love interferes with work efficiency and career. And not everyone is ready to risk their careers for a fleeting affair. By the way, according to statistics, every third person had an office romance. And only 13% got married.

Irina Nim

pros

• You know what the person is doing and have a rough idea of his or her income. Of course, the main thing is that a person is good, but financial independence is an important factor.
• Candidates are nearby to find them, you do not need to make unnecessary movements.

Minuses

• Company policy may discourage flirting at work.
• Some are not ready to work with a partner because they need a break from each other.

Don't mess with coworkers who are already in a relationship. Chances are, the situation will quickly become ugly, and it could cost you your job and your reputation.

Wherever

Real dating is good because it can happen at any moment. Including inappropriate. You can meet in line at the dentist on call or at the airline counter after you have lost your luggage.

pros

You will have a great story to tell your friends and grandchildren

Minuses

Chances are good that such a spontaneous acquaintance simply will not happen

My clients often complain that there is nowhere to meet. Including because it’s just scary to get to know each other. Everywhere maniacs, perverts, greedy women, lustful men lie in wait. What if they break my heart again! The list of fears is endless. People want to know what will happen. And since it is impossible to know in advance, do what is necessary, and come what may!

Irina Nim

Rational fears save you from rash actions. We need them. But these fears fetter, isolate us from the world, this is our cell of non-freedom. And it is up to you to choose: to be afraid or to move on?