How To Be Successful On Tinder: A Guide For Men

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Thousands of men chat on Tinder every day. Someone wants to find a life partner, and someone just in search of easy acquaintances. Learn how to be a successful Tinder hunter in this article.

Many of us are aware of the Tinder app for meeting new people.

Recently, an e-book has been published dedicated to this application. The author of the book is known as Max. Max claims that his book is written on the basis of "conventional psychology of seduction" (sounds beautiful, whatever that means).

At first glance, it seems that the book is created specifically for pickup artists who are looking to use one of the dating apps to increase their list of conquered female hearts.

But the author of the book says that this is not the case. Its main goal is to save people's time and relieve users of the embarrassment that often comes with new acquaintances. Tinder, according to Max, is not only an app for fleeting and meaningless dating, but also a great way to meet women that you would never dare to approach in real life.

Here are some basic tips for men who love dating on Tinder.

1. Tinder isn't just a casual dating app

Max says that many people describe Tinder as a one-night stand app. But this is a mistake: only sexually anxious young ladies sit on Tinder. Basically, the girls you meet on Tinder are not much different from the girls you would meet in a bar, for example.

“Understand that getting the attention of a girl you really like is much more difficult on Tinder than it would be if you meet her, for example, bored alone in a bar.

Imagine: you need to convince a girl who has never seen you in the face to spend time with you face to face. And yes, don't forget that a lady should prefer meeting you with a man she knows or with millions of other guys who are also Tinder users.

But here's the good news: By the Law of Large Numbers, you'll be far more successful on Tinder than you'll be at a bar. In addition, there are various tips with which you can increase your chances of success."

2. Be the perfect lover

“I want to mention one guy with whom I had a chance to chat on the web. His name is Ryan Gosling. He was brought up in such a way that he could not even think of offending women in any way, and always tried in every possible way to look after and take care of them.

Men like Ryan, who respect women so much, can be overly shy by nature and never dare to walk up and meet a lady on the street or start flirting with her in a bar.

This is the guy that millions of women dream of, but in real life they rarely pay attention to him. If you use the “ideal lover” approach, you can pleasantly surprise a woman.

This approach is successful because it is applicable to most girls. Do not forget that after network communication you will have to meet a girl in real life, and then Ryan Gosling will have to turn into James Bond."

3. Set the optimal search range

Do not rush to immediately look for a girlfriend thousands of kilometers away from you. Start small and gradually increase your search range. This will help you prioritize and multiply your chances of success.

4. Take a quality photo for your profile

Here's what Max advises about your profile photo.

Do not post photos:

• If it only shows your face.
• In the frame, you are standing somewhere far away.
• You are out of focus.
• You have made too serious a face.
• You are sealed with another person.
• The photo looks blurry. Even girls have already stopped using this boring effect.
• Darkened photos, as well as photos in which you are wearing glasses. Black and white photographs are also discouraged.

Instead of this:

• Take a photo where only you will be. The absence of strangers in the photo ensures that the viewer will not be distracted by someone.
• Avoid exclusively portrait photos.
• In the photo, you must be looking at the camera.
• Smile naturally, not faked.
• It is not forbidden to use various photo editors to correct minor imperfections in appearance such as acne or adjust the brightness of a photo. Don't overdo it though: you should certainly be the best version of yourself, but try to make it so that a stranger looking at your photo on Tinder can later recognize you on the street.
• Put a message in your photo. Show that you are stylish, show that you travel a lot, or showcase your great physical fitness.

5. Scroll instead of clicking on the cross or heart

Max advises not to click on the cross or heart, but to flip - it takes less time. In his book, Max discusses the advantages and disadvantages of these methods. But despite the fact that using a swipe, according to Max, is preferable, this method has its drawbacks. We spend less time studying the user's photo, and we can put a like or dislike purely intuitively, without thinking at all, and miss the person who deserves our attention.

6. Don't visit Tinder too often

“Of course, you can view the photos and like them at any time of the day or night. However, it is best to do this in your spare time, for example, when you are waiting for something or someone. Or when you simply cannot find a more rewarding way to spend your time.

If you combine your Tinder chat with other important things, then you will not pay due attention to your activity in the application.

While Tinder won't take up a lot of your time, don't let it interfere with your daily life. Do not sit there for hours, but stop by once every one or two days.

These time slots are also good because they allow the app to pick the most active users for you. In addition, some people may view the time you last logged on to Tinder. And when you notice that a person comes into the application every five minutes, thoughts like “Does he have nothing else to do?”, “Will he constantly bother me with his eternal online” and the like.

Give the girls time, do not bombard them with likes, but wait until they start putting hearts on you. So you will definitely be on horseback."

7. Don't be too picky

Let's be honest: Tinder does not have exclusively fashionable girls. In addition, men tend to embellish their appearance, forgetting that they themselves are also far from ideal.

So do not be too picky, and if, nevertheless, appearance is so important to you, then get yourself a rating scale from 1 to 10 and mark only those ladies who can give the highest (or almost the highest) rating on your scale.

8. Best time to chat on Tinder

Tinder, according to Max, has a prime time:

• Monday - Thursday from 19:00 to 23:00;
• Friday - Saturday from 15:00 to 21:00;
• Sunday from 16:00 to 23:00.

For example, Sunday is perfect for relaxing and relaxing activities like Tinder. This is the perfect day to set up dates for the coming week, because it's Sunday that girls don't often shy away from talking to you with their favorite phrase, "Sorry, I'm busy right now."

Hundreds of girls from different cities followed a friend's advice and installed Tinder over the weekend. On Sunday you have a lot of free time to make acquaintance with the "new" young ladies.

9. Find out who the girl you just met is

The information contained in the Tinder profile is clearly not enough to form a complete picture of a person and understand whether he is worth your attention. But there is a simple solution: find the girl you met through the app on Facebook. This way you can find out about her interests, understand what kind of people she prefers to communicate with, and also see more of her photos.

10. Don't rush things

Max advises: “Take your time, don't drive the horses. Do not insist on meeting immediately after five minutes of correspondence. Yes, it is quite possible that the girl with whom you developed mutual sympathy (albeit purely virtual for now) sees you as a potential partner. But if you immediately begin to make unambiguous hints and insist on meeting too zealously, you will cause hostility and alienation from most girls."

11. Apparently, spicy images are not bad

In his book, Max says that he always thought that sending out naughty images was the lot of Internet perverts and other sexually obsessed people. But then he mentions a man who was his travel companion. The man regularly posted intimate photos to girls on Tinder - apparently with great success.