How not to get discouraged when looking for a job

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

What do we feel when the "Find a Job" quest is too long? That's right, we are nervous, sleep poorly, eat little, we are not happy about anything, and the level of our self-esteem leaves much to be desired. In the end, in despair, we are ready to agree to any job, even if we know a priori that we will not like it. Today we will talk about how to avoid these disastrous consequences and not give up when looking for a job.

1. Find something that will help you maintain faith in yourself and your strength

It could be anything. Your past successful work experience. Education received. A support group made up of family and friends. Try to remember everything you've done, everything you can be proud of, from winning your high school soccer game to winning a major tender in your last job.

If all of the above does not help, then get your kindergarten photo from the depths of family albums. Look into the eyes of this child and remember how many promises were made to him then: to become a pilot, a great boss, a happy person at last. You certainly can't fool him, can you?

2. Place all the dots over the i

Sometimes we cannot find a job simply because we don’t know what we are looking for. We mutter something like: "I want a salary of at least N thousand rubles" or "I want to work according to the specialty I received at the university." When fate so helpfully presents us with what we, in fact, asked for, we have a heap of discontent and doubts: “No, the salary, of course, is decent, and I studied this for five years, but I'm not sure that I can take on such a responsibility / every weekday come to the office, which is located on the other side of the city / recycle”and so on.

In order not to fall into this trap, codenamed “What I asked for, I got,” you should not have vague ideas about your future work. Take a piece of paper and describe in detail everything that you expect from the work of a lifetime, from job responsibilities and salary to the presence of a dress code and a coffee machine in the office.

Perhaps by making a list like this, you will realize that you want too much. At least for now. And this is not a tragedy, and this does not mean at all that you should bury your dreams without even giving them a chance to come true.

In such a case, it is very important to remember your ideal. And know what you are ready for while it is not offered.

3. Remember that your life is not only about finding a job

When the last 500 rubles remain in your pocket, when all your friends on social networks consider it their moral duty to constantly ask you: "Well, how did I find a job?", When you visit sites with vacancies every hour, it is very easy to earn a nervous breakdown.

Yes, finding a job is your top priority at the moment. But do not forget that your life is passing. And in the cases described above, she passes in torment. Yes, you are looking for a job, but this does not mean that you should give up training, hobbies, friends - everything that brings you joy. And your future employer is unlikely to want to see in his team a nervous, exhausted, gloomy person, whom you will soon become if you live with only one thought - to find a job.

Do not console yourself with the idea that you will live to the fullest as soon as you find a job. If you don’t know how to be happy every minute of your life, even if those minutes fell on difficult times, you don’t know how to be happy in principle. And as soon as you get a long-awaited job, immediately you will find yourself many other reasons for suffering.

4. Look for workarounds

Lack of money is the main reason why we accept jobs that will generate income, but not joy. If you feel that all is not lost, and you have the strength to fight, do not give up, do not settle for less. Secure yourself financially: try yourself as a freelancer or find a temporary job with a free schedule. This way you can calmly search for what you like, without worrying that when you are invited for the next interview, you simply will not have money for the trip.

There is another workaround - to return to your previous place of work, if your position is still vacant, of course. A way that for many people seems like a disaster. The very thought of returning to what you once grew out of is a wildest nightmare. Take a step back. Surrender. Lose. Sign your own powerlessness.

But don't forget:

There is nothing more monstrous than what we can tell ourselves.

John Steinbeck

After a week, most of your colleagues will not remember that you were absent for some time. The earth turns, life goes on, everyone has their own problems, and if you yourself don't call yourself a failure, then no one will.

Whichever strategy you choose, the main thing is to know your worth. Paralyzing fear, not our inability, is what, in most cases, is the real reason for our failure. Be brave enough to work, not just because "it is necessary" and "I get paid to do it", but because you really enjoy what you do.