The 3/5 Rule: You Will Quickly Deal With Your Thoughts

I asked the people who filed for divorce, at what point this idea was born in their head and they made the final decision on this matter? It turned out that this happened on vacation or on sick leave, when they had nothing to do. It was then that they took the time to reflect on the past and make plans for the future.

Many truly important thoughts do come to us in moments of silence or loneliness. However, in order to hear your inner voice, it is not enough just to move away from the distracting environment. What does it take to make this time productive?

Find 5 minutes of tranquility

The pace of modern life is so frantic that we have less and less time to spend it alone with ourselves and sort out our thoughts. This is the reason for many problems that prevent us from moving forward in relationships, personal development, and career.

The first thing to do to get your thoughts in order is to find the right place for it. The two easiest ways to be alone for a few minutes are to walk and meditate.

The main thing is to choose a certain time to walk down the street or immerse yourself in yourself. The best option is morning, when the affairs and worries of the coming day have not yet begun to fall on us. This can be a useful alternative to jogging, which sometimes does not have enough time.

So, you went outside or took a seat on the rug in the lotus position. What's next?

Ask 3 main questions

A question is a great way to better understand yourself and find a solution to your long-standing internal contradictions. Sometimes we get so caught up in self-criticism, blame, or criticism that we forget the simplest solution: ask a question that will help clarify the situation. Most often there are only three of these questions:

What's going on at the moment?
Does everything suit me?
What can I do about it?

The main danger that lies in wait for you when you ask yourself these questions is best formulated in the dialogue from the movie "Inadequate People":

- This is not an answer.

- No, that's the answer. It's just not what you want to hear.

Aloofness and lack of outside influence will surely help you deal with any situation. The most important thing is to accept the answer you receive, even if you don't like it. Why? Because at that moment you will be completely honest with yourself.

We all want simple answers to difficult questions, not realizing that for everyone these answers will be different. Such 5 minutes of calmness, spent alone with thoughts that are important to you, give you the opportunity to distance yourself from what the environment tells us: our friends, our family, the books we read, the films we watch.

You can devote your 5 minutes to all three questions, or think about just one of them. You don't need to have the focus of the Dalai Lama to do this, you just need to ask the right questions.

Draw conclusions

Very few people are capable of truly doing nothing. Free your mind from annoying thoughts, while not blocking their voice with a TV or phone. Adizes wrote:

Nothing is literally nothing. At this moment, you have no plans, no goals, and nothing loads your brain. Thoughts are in free flight.

In order not to make hasty decisions after morning exercises for the brain, just draw conclusions. You spent your 5 minutes alone with yourself to find answers, and not just take a break from the annoying noise. It is best to put them on paper or turn them into a task for today.

You can't get the right answers if you don't ask the right questions. But when you receive an answer, you will appreciate it, because it is the most honest possible.

Finally

The 3/5 rule helps you spend 5 minutes of your free time with benefit and put things in order in your head. You just need to distract from the hustle and bustle and ask 3 simple main questions. Why exactly them?

As Bernard Shaw said, "The most difficult question to answer is the obvious one." These questions are not difficult at all, but we too rarely consciously ask ourselves. It's time to fix it and draw conclusions.

I wish you success!