Why keep your personal diary (not a blog)

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

We all know from childhood that people keep diaries. For children, these are notebooks with stickers and mental suffering. But adults often stop keeping a diary - too little time, no time to think, etc. And many more confuse a personal diary with a personal blog. What is a diary and why everyone should keep it, I will tell you with an example from my personal life.

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What should be included in the diary

In general, you need to write in a diary everything that worries you and makes you very happy - the main thing is to be honest with yourself. If you write about work, then do not forget to describe your joys and failures, achievements and mistakes. Tag people and events, projects and places. Be honest about your emotions and embarrassment. Be sure to assign points to the events described - from 1 to 5.

The main thing is honesty and frankness - as in confession.

Diary is not a blog

You will never be honest in public. You will not write that you have failed the project and that only you are to blame. You will not write about problems with your loved one and that your relative has health problems. You will not write bold plans because you are afraid to be ridiculed. Everyone on a personal blog writes only what they will be praised for. Only a diary closed from strangers will allow you to write everything in it exactly as you saw and experienced it.

A blog is not a hindrance to a diary.

History

I worked for almost a year in a company that is the best place to work in the post-Soviet space for creative and thinking people - almost everyone wants to work there. There, goodies in the form of a comfortable office, perfect furniture and excellent equipment, which others only dream of, fall on you like a hail. The people around are just a dream. However, while working there, I felt discomfort from the corporate culture that had developed over the years of rapid growth, which simply oppressed me (it just did not suit me, this does not mean that it is bad). I began to write down all my thoughts almost daily in the diary program on the iPhone. People, events and places could be tagged there. Mark projects that the recording touched. And most importantly, give the entries points - from 1 to 5. Why is this all?

You live day after day and experience a lot of emotions - good and bad. But our memory is so arranged that, summing up some results, for example, menstruation, we misunderstand what happened - mostly good remains, and our brain displaces negativity from the general picture. And based on this remaining picture, you draw the wrong conclusions about where you belong and what is worth doing for the rest of your life. There are a lot of examples of such an incorrect analysis: an army from which hazing and beatings are forgotten and only good memories remain, you will not remember anything bad about your old classmates - everything is so rosy and lacy, student years - idealized and forgotten are coming before us as a continuous party and an ocean of pleasant experiences. All this was not the same, this is how you recreate it in your subconscious and again want to be small, go to school and return to college.

So about my story … The dream company in my head, which forgot all the negative, bit by bit formed into a single oil painting in the diary program and received 3.2 points out of 5 during the time of keeping records, received my own assessments and colleagues and partners (now I rely not on my memories while working with them, but on analysis). Making the decision to dismiss, I went over the notes and realized that nothing keeps me in the company-dream.

I will tell you about the programs for keeping a diary that I tried in the next story.