10 qualities important to relationships

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Everyone is so obsessed with their appearance: losing weight and sunbathing, conforming to ideals, choosing clothes to hide flaws. If you are just an esthete and narcissist, keep up the good work - it will be nice to look at you, and it's cool. But if you want to attract potential partners in this way and start a happy relationship, you should not bother so much. There are at least ten qualities that appeal to a lot more good looks. And, just as importantly, they help to maintain relationships and make them happy.

Listening skills

Almost everyone knows how to talk and loves, but only a few can listen. If you have ever communicated with such a person, you understand what I am talking about.

When a person does not wait for his turn to speak, while you speak, he does not go over such cases in his head that fit the topic.

You can maintain a conversation without even listening, it's not difficult - nod, say "yeah" and don't look at your smartphone. But listening is a whole art, but it is always felt and appreciated. I really want to talk to such people.

How to develop listening skills? Try to focus on what the other person is saying and not be distracted by your thoughts. Take an interest in what he says, and if it doesn't work out, why talk at all?

Ability to be spontaneous

Some people like complete spontaneity in actions, others prefer consistency and reliability. But in any case, without a bit of spontaneity, imagination and unexpected actions "in the stream" will be boring.

Just like that, for no reason, on a weekday, offer to go to a restaurant (especially if this is not a flower-candy period, but more or less stable and almost family life), just sing when you are in a good mood, offer to learn some dance or go for a ride on a weekend in nature to find an incredibly beautiful place.

Spontaneity does not allow relationships to become part of the gray everyday life, makes them interesting and colorful, and provides many pleasant memories.

How to develop spontaneity in yourself? Listen to yourself more often, what exactly you want. It doesn't matter yet whether your impulses are appreciated or not, the main thing is that some desires appear.

Do something good

It doesn't matter what your skill is about - to drive a car coolly, play the guitar masterly or speak fluently in three languages. People are always fascinated by someone else's skill, whatever it may concern.

How to learn? Just find something you love and hone your skills to perfection. By the way, if you don't have a relationship at the moment, it will help you start one - as soon as you immerse yourself in what you love and forget about the desire to start a relationship, they magically appear in your life.

Be self-sufficient and content with everything

People who are happy with what they have are more attractive than those who constantly complain and suffer from the fact that they are missing something. If you are happy with your appearance, you look much more attractive than if you consider yourself a fat freak.

If you are happy with your job, no one will call you a failure. And the rogues, as it is perfectly described on Lurka, are not those who have a small salary, but people who believe that they constantly do not have enough money.

How to learn to be content with what you have? Yes, it’s not that easy, but it’s possible. For a start, you can, then find what is going well in your life, and feel grateful for it.

Lack of unhealthy "corrals"

If you're leaning and trying to eat more vegetables, that's great, but putting your brains out of the pizzeria staff by demanding to make pizza for you without dough is a whole different story.

This applies to all your principles and hobbies - in everything you need to know when to stop, and a painful attachment to some kind of behavior does not make anyone happy.

How to get rid of too strong attachments? First you need to understand at all whether you have them. And to do this, ask your best friends and relatives - let them honestly say what they think about this. Most likely, they even told you about it before, but you weren't paying attention.

Be real

You can endlessly come up with fake images, hide behind them and even get used to them, but people always feel fake and appreciate real personalities.

This does not mean that you will be as simple as two rubles. This means that you will not hide your feelings, and will not "fake them." You openly smile and laugh, are not ashamed of your impulses, desires and hobbies.

How to become real? Realize what is a mask in your image (sometimes it is not so easy), understand why you put it on and reconsider your attitude towards yourself.

The ability to compromise

The ability to compromise, and most importantly, the desire to seek it, is a sign that a person is ready for a long and happy relationship.

If you are not looking for compromises, but forcing your partner to obey you in everything, then you do not respect him, and sooner or later he will get tired of it.

If, on the contrary, you always obey and yield, you will get bored - a long period of silence will end in an explosion and you yourself will break off the relationship.

What to do? Always put yourself in the other person's shoes. For example, you work from home and after work you want to go for a walk to stretch your muscles, go ice skating, or do other active sports.

Once you put yourself in the other person's shoes, you can calm down and find a compromise.

Care

Almost all people love to be taken care of (without fanaticism, of course). This is an opportunity to say “I love you” without words, “I am not indifferent to you or indifferent to you”.

Distract when you see that the person is sad or ask what happened and listen to all the problems. If a person is sick, take care of him as his parents would. Even just buy your favorite treat, just like that, when you were not asked about it.

How can you learn to care for others?If you are used to thinking only of yourself, it will not be easy to start caring for others. But if you are fond of the other person, it will not be so difficult to figure out how to help him and what to surprise him.

Sense of humor

Everyone loves cheerful people, they charge them with a positive, you want to be with them. In general, almost everyone has a sense of humor, but it often does not coincide - different things seem funny. But it already depends on upbringing, environment and other factors.

In any case, it is much more pleasant to communicate with a person who smiles more often than frowns and does not mind laughing heartily.

How to develop a sense of humor?No way. You already have it, maybe you are just embarrassed to joke in front of people you don't know or think your sense of humor is strange. This is not that important - if you are not shy about being yourself, people will accept you for who you are.

To be strong

This is appreciated not only in men, but also in women. No one wants to see next to him a brat who cannot cope with their problems, let alone help and support in a difficult situation.

Inner strength, the ability to solve your problems without getting lost in public, the ability to support and help are much more valuable than a pleasant appearance.

How to develop inner strength in yourself?This is a long journey of self-improvement, when you decide from now on not to complain about adversity and perceive all your problems as exciting quests to be completed.