What is a mindful relationship

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

You can plunge into relationships with your head and think exclusively with your heart, or you can approach them consciously. Why do partners who not only follow the lead of passion, but also think rationally feel more comfortable with each other? Let's try to figure it out.

We are approaching the moment when the relationship between people will change dramatically. The existing paradigms don't work. People are not satisfied with love. And there is nothing wrong with that. Because when the system doesn't work, it needs to be changed. This is exactly what happens in the intimate sphere. Dissatisfaction with relationships makes us move towards conscious love.

So what is a meaningful relationship? This is a romantic relationship in which both partners feel bound by a common goal - the goal of development. Personal development. Development as a couple. Development, thanks to which the world will become a little better.

Nowadays, most people enter into relationships to meet their own needs. Such a relationship can drag on for several years, but sooner or later it will end in rupture and disappointment.

But when two people meet to grow together, the relationship becomes much more than just enjoyment.

Two personalities get the opportunity to open up and develop more than if they did it alone. As a result, both people feel deeply fulfilled and self-actualize.

If you feel like you want to take your relationship to the next level, check out four signs of a meaningful relationship.

1. Partners do not focus on the result of the relationship: development is important for them

Not getting hung up on what the future holds for your couple doesn't mean not worrying about what's going on at all. Doesn't mean that you shouldn't think about how the relationship will turn out.

Your development should mean more to you than thinking that the relationship should "work." In fact, we are here to grow. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When development stops, we immediately feel that something has gone wrong. Because it is.

Without development, we do not satisfy the needs of our soul.

Unfortunately, relationships today tend to inhibit growth rather than promote it. This is one of the main reasons why we don't deal with romantic love.

We want our partners to act in a strictly defined way, we step on our throats to please others, we feel small, depressed and wonder how we got that way. Because of this, relationships inevitably begin to be perceived as a cage from which we want to get out. But the bitter truth: this cage is ourselves.

The conscious couple values growth more than anything else because they understand that development is the secret that keeps the relationship alive. Even if this growth is scary (because it implies unknown), even if there is a risk of outgrowing the relationship, the couple is ready to develop. After all, this is why a natural feeling of vitality and, of course, love appears in relationships.

2. Each person comes into a relationship with the baggage of the past

Conscious couples understand that we all have old wounds that will come through in one way or another, especially in relationships. In other words, people expect to be abandoned, deceived, rejected, underestimated. These and other shitty sensations come when you get closer to another person.

Most of us still believe that in relationships, people should only feel good, and when negative feelings arise, it seems that everything went wrong. Only often in this situation we do not see that all these negative feelings arise from our negative experience. These feelings have nothing to do with our partner, they are solely related to our own biases.

Conscious partners are ready to sort out the problems of past and present relationships, because they understand that because of such prejudices, relationships can go on the failed path of the previous ones. Problematic patterns of behavior can be destroyed, but only if you take full responsibility.

3. All expressions of affection are welcome

A conscious relationship is a room in which you can feel anything. This is a room in which you can share your feelings and dreams with your partner. This is a territory of uncertainty.

It's rare to be honest about who you are and help your partner do the same. You may not like what you hear; this conversation can release hell out of you. But you have to be ready for this if you want to be your true self.

We are used to bending over and changing to please the people we love because we don't want them to stop loving us. But this destroys love.

The only way out is to be completely honest: to bring out the part of ourselves that is difficult for us to share, and let your partner do the same. This will lead to understanding, which, in turn, will increase love.

4. Relationships are a place for love

Love is ultimately an art. The art of accepting, being close, forgiving and allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

Sometimes we take love for granted. We want to be on top of that feeling all the time, and when that doesn't happen, we are not satisfied with our relationship. This approach does not cover even a small part of such a thing as love.

Love is travel and exploration. It manifests itself in all the smallest details of your relationship.

Ask yourself, "What does love mean to me now?" The answer will be new every time. Because you grow and keep going where you have never been before!

The conscious couple is desperate to be the embodiment of love. And thanks to dedication and constant work on themselves, partners experience such feelings that they could not even imagine.