How to be a good friend for a depressed person

But, believe me, it is impossible to fully imagine this state. Depression is like an unwanted guest who has fallen on his head and is not going to leave. It takes away your strength and creates chaos. Depression doesn't care if you have a job. She does not care that a pile of dishes has accumulated in the sink, and it is high time to throw out the garbage. She eagerly consumes all your time and all your strength. In general, not the most pleasant time.

Therefore, let's talk about what you can do if your loved one is suffering from depression.

1. Help with deeds

People who are depressed need everything that everyone else needs. Food, water, a million dollars in small bills - everything is like everyone else. But it is difficult to get these useful things when it seems as if the head is stuffed with cotton wool.

Yes, empathy and solidarity are wonderful, like flowers and touching notes. But sometimes the best thing we can do for another person is to come to him, put things in the wash, bring food and clean up a little.

2. Be patient

A depressed person does not know how long this condition will last, and irritation from friends only aggravates the situation. So take it easy. Sooner or later, the depression will pass.

Trust me, it’s much harder for your friend than you might imagine. Try not to rush him or ask what is going on in his head. Just look into his eyes and say, “You are a strong man. I am here and I will help you get through this. You will feel better soon."

3. Don't talk nonsense

The most idiotic things you can say:

You need to eat healthy foods and exercise.
Why are you sad?

If your friend is acting weird and you can't figure out why, think about the omniscient Google. On the Internet, you can find detailed explanations of the symptoms, although it would be more advisable to consult a doctor.

Don't bore your friend with questions about how he is feeling. Do not force him to convince you that depression is a real and serious condition that does not in the least resemble small tides of sadness. He doesn't have time for this. Now he is busy only with his illness.

Treatment for depression is only delayed by the condescending attitude of others. In such a situation, it is impossible to feel comfortable.

Therefore, in depression it is so necessary for a friend to say: “There is no need to hide anything. This is a real illness, but you are not to blame for it. Would you like a slice of apple pie? Well. Quite a tiny piece. Very tiny, right? You see, it's much better now."

4. Don't forget about yourself

Don't become hostage to the emotional state of the other person. It will not be easier for anyone. Do only what you can do. And nothing else. Don't waste your energy trying to get your friend to have them.

Your well-being is important too. And if you become a nanny for a depressed friend, then you will only torture yourself.

At times, the depressed person just isn't able to be a good friend, which of course can upset you. Then take a break. Understand that if you go about your business, this does not mean that you are leaving your friend. He still loves you. It's just too hard for him to put it into words now.

Do not react to his attacks. Inappropriate behavior cannot be forgiven for a person just because they are depressed. You don't deserve to be abused, so don't be afraid to say it bluntly if he oversteps the boundaries. Even if not immediately, then at least when the peak of depression is over.

5. Help maintain good habits and a good daily routine

You need to have breakfast every day. Walking in the evening is also a great idea. Green tea can help. Everyone needs water. The medicine must be taken as written in the instructions. These seem to be simple and obvious things, but they become extremely important when a friend is fixated on depression and does not notice anything around.

A depressed person needs help with just such small things, because they seem completely undeserving to him.

Both polite reminders and capsized messages like “WELL SO, DO YOU DRINK WATER TODAY? And look at the photo of this French Bulldog eating donuts. So cute . Gestures like these work wonders and help your friend get back to normal life again.

When the fog clears and a person can look at his life, what he sees will not horrify him because of how neglected everything is. And if suddenly you yourself get into trouble, you can be calm: your friend will not forget your support and will answer you in kind.