11 signs your friendship is about to end

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

The society of a loved one can be destructive. The main thing is to recognize it in time.

1. Friendship turns into competition

It's okay to share your accomplishments and celebrate each other's successes. But traditional Friday get-togethers shouldn't turn into a vanity fair. If you are preparing a short list of your accomplishments for the next meeting, perhaps something went wrong. In case of failure, the friend should support, not assert himself at your expense. Otherwise, it negatively affects your self-esteem and attitude, but is this what you want?

2. A friend is jealous of you

The position "Either I or he" looks more or less adequate in the middle group of the kindergarten. When school years are long gone, such ultimatums, jealousy and attempts to control look at least strange. You have the right to enter into a loving and friendly relationship on the side, and if a friend does not understand this, it is safer to stop communicating.

3. All your hangouts end with a hangover

Perhaps you have a friend with whom you can have fun, arrange a raid on bars, have a drink. But if each of your meetings is accompanied by alcoholic libations, and in the morning you feel bad about what you had drunk the day before and are ashamed to remember yesterday evening, this is a wake-up call.

Friends should have common interests, but alcohol may not be the only catalyst for a relationship. Here we are talking about other dependencies. In addition, communication should charge you with cheerfulness, and not put you to bed for a day with a headache and a wet towel on your forehead.

4. You are forced to play silent

Friendship and loving relationships are good and productive when they are a full partnership. At the same time, you give and receive in approximately equal shares, and this is not only about material things. If in all conversations the interlocutor almost all the time talks about what is interesting to him, and you just nod and do not have time to insert a word, this is normal only in one case: there is a "psychologist" sign on your door and the interlocutor is not your friend, but a client.

5. You only share bad news

Friendship, like marriage, is designed to keep you together in grief and joy. When you start pouring only negativity on each other, saving good news for someone else, that relationship does not work very well. Perhaps you are afraid to share happy moments because criticism, devaluation, and an attempt to compete will follow. And this is a very transparent hint that it's time to put an end to friendship.

6. Your friend gossips a lot

There is a deep chasm between discussing mutual acquaintances and judging them. If a friend likes to wash the bones of someone, tell about unpleasant secrets, find non-existent flaws, you should think about whether you can trust him. There is a great risk that your secrets are spreading around the city, and in a distorted form.

7. The anticipation of a meeting is scary, not happy

You no longer include gatherings with a friend in your plans, and the thought of a chance meeting is more frightening than pleasing. And this is not just an alarm bell, but an alarm siren that notifies of the need to evacuate this friendship. The fact that nothing else binds you is also hinted at by the unwillingness to spend time together: you must invite someone third or fourth to a party so that they act as a buffer between you and fill in the awkward pauses in the conversation.

8. A friend asks you to do things that hurt you

Folklore consists of thousands of proverbs and songs about true friendship and especially help, by which the truth of a relationship is determined. It's okay to help out a friend in difficult times, but there are markers that will help determine that a person is turning from a friend into a parasite who is only interested in your services.

For example, if a person asks you to get up early to help them light their car battery, that's okay. If he demands the same at a time when you have an important meeting at work, and then is offended that you did not help, you should think about it.

9. A friend always pushes his position

You probably have not only common interests, but also different ones. For example, suppose you like Mexican food, friend Japanese. But instead of alternating restaurants, you over and over with longing eat sushi and rolls, and your friend at the same time flatly refuses to even look at guacamole. During the gatherings, you only listen to jazz, although you yourself love rock, watch Iñarritu's masterpieces, although you would love to watch "Scary Movie". The one-sided game should be stopped, friendship works on the principles of reciprocity.

10. You are afraid of being vulnerable around a friend

You have been communicating for a long time, you know a lot about each other, you have been in funny and embarrassing situations together, but now you are uncomfortable sharing with a friend. Especially when it comes to the important. Perhaps he once did not support you, was sarcastic or rude. In any case, even if a friend behaved impeccably, but you do not want to share intimate with him, this is a hint that your paths are beginning to diverge.

11. After meeting with a friend, you do not feel inspired, but devastated

Anything can happen in relationships, but in general, they should rather motivate and support you. If friendship has turned into an overcoming and you only hold on to it because of nostalgic feelings, it's time to tie it up.