How to communicate with a sociopath

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Living and working with a person who does not take into account the feelings of others is difficult, but possible.

Who is a Sociopath

A sociopath is someone with a dissocial personality disorder. Such people lack empathy, the ability to understand the experiences of others and emotionally respond to events. Therefore, the sociopath does not perceive social norms and rules, constantly violates them and does not take into account other people's feelings.

Because of their high intelligence and disregard for the rules, sociopaths make the best criminals. And although most do not do anything illegal, sociopaths are potential manipulators who are ready to use people for their own purposes.

The life hacker has already described in detail how to get through a sociopath. You need to be wary if a person:

• at the beginning of communication he was charming, but gradually he begins to dictate his will to you;
• he lies a lot and often, making up stories on the go without any problems;
• lives without friends, family, does not talk about the past, but is surrounded by admirers;
• prone to sudden outbursts of anger and aggression;
• tries to isolate you from society;
• narcissistic to delusions of grandeur;
• likes to manipulate other people to achieve their goals;
• knows how to remain icy calm in stressful situations.

How to communicate with him correctly

Better, of course, not to communicate at all. If you understand that you are facing a sociopath who is going to achieve what you want with your help, then it is better to give up communication in time than to suffer later.

Easy to say but difficult to do, especially at work, with friends or family.

Assess the risk

If you are suggestible, easily influenced by others, or lack confidence, try to keep communication to a minimum. The more vulnerabilities you have, the easier it is to manage you. Such people are the victims of manipulation.

This does not mean that a sociopath should be conspicuously avoided. Just try to do less common business.

Think about yourself

Sociopaths target dependent people as victims who tend to obey instructions. The best way to protect yourself from a sociopath is confidence and independence, your position and the ability to think. The more independent a person is, the more difficult it is to control him, which is why sociopaths do not like them.

It can take years to understand who you are and what you are striving for. Learn new things, communicate with different people and listen to someone else's point of view, but do not accept it right away. This will help develop independent thinking.

Learn to be confident. It is difficult, but necessary.

Do not fall for provocations

That is, don't feed the troll. If you are not fooled by manipulation, then it is not interesting to control you - the sociopath will quickly get bored. Keep calm in communication, do not go into conflict.

Don't tell the person he is a sociopath

So you will either make him angry or provoke him. And it may well be that the sociopath is not aware of his behavior. Do not show that you saw through it at all. Maintain polite communication.

Do not fall for his charm

The sociopath knows how to charm and knows how to profitably present himself. But this is not a reason to forget who is in front of you. Remember that there is a catch behind the flow of compliments.

Seriously, don't fall for it. A sociopath knows how to tell stories to evoke sympathy and sympathy, and knows how to prove his importance. This is normal for him, but if you believe and behave, you risk becoming a victim of manipulation in the future. Yes, this is not very good, after all, the person is not to blame for sociopathy and mental disorder. But that won't make it any easier for you, right?

End difficult relationships

If you recognize a manipulator in your partner and his behavior poisons your life, try to end the relationship as soon as possible. The longer you pull, the harder it becomes to break free from the sociopath. While feelings can be intense, a relationship with a sociopath is often life-threatening. Take a closer look: maybe this is just your case.

Just don't confuse sociopathy with indifference.

Want to put a label on someone who hurt you or behaved selfishly? Perhaps there are reasons for this behavior, the person made a mistake and regrets. The sociopath is not wrong, does not worry, and will do it again - when he needs it.

It is not easy to end a relationship with a sociopath on your own if you have already come under his influence. Enlist the support of friends and family. Prepare for a sociopath to be rejection-less and reckless to get your attention.

Warn others

You should not shout at every corner that you have identified a sociopath, but sometimes you should warn your common family and friends, especially if you see that someone has fallen under the influence of a manipulator. Help the victim understand the situation. Of course, you don't need to drive off the sociopath with a gun, but you shouldn't let the situation drift completely.

Do not be afraid

After all that has been written and said about sociopaths, it's hard not to get paranoid and suspicious of everyone around you. But you shouldn't put people with a vile character in this category. And don't think that every sociopath will exploit and destroy you.

As already mentioned, a sociopath is highly intelligent, so many people realize that their reactions and behavior are unusual. And not everyone goes to the dark side: many even ask what to do if they discovered signs of a dissocial disorder in themselves.

You can communicate, work and live with a sociopath, especially if your self-esteem is normal.

And don't try to remake anyone. Re-educating an adult is unrealistic.

Think with your head, act as you see fit, then you are unlikely to become a victim. Your confidence and knowledge will help the sociopath to see you as an equal and not as a means to an end.