How to communicate with people with whom it is impossible to communicate

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Each of us has met people with whom it is difficult to communicate. Sometimes you want to get away from them as soon as possible, or just rudely interrupt. Why these people are like that and how to behave with them, tells the teacher and aspiring writer Yakomaskin Andrey.

The Persian philosopher Omar Khayyam has a wonderful saying:

The wise one understands that the aggression of another person is his request for love.

More than once I had to deal with people who have a hard time making contact. Sometimes it is just difficult to start a conversation, sometimes it is difficult to maintain it, sometimes a person can be too aggressive or too talkative. And no matter how much I asked others for their opinions about these people, most often they told me the same thing: “It's hard for everyone to communicate with him. Do not pay attention.

I am sure there are several people among your acquaintances who fall into this category. It may be really difficult to communicate with them, but I am convinced that there is always a good reason for this.

I really like one life story described in Mikhail Weller's novel "The Adventures of Major Zvyagin".

Major Zvyagin, together with his wife and daughter, move to a new apartment. Their immediate neighbor from below is pensioner Efrosinya Ivanovna. For her, the Zvyagin family immediately becomes enemy number 1, and she begins to harass them in every possible way. She starts gossip, writes anonymous letters, hits the ceiling with a mop at night and constantly swears with his wife and daughter.

The major tried to reconcile with the pensioner, but all this had only a temporary effect. Then he learns from the neighbors the story of Efrosinya Ivanovna. Before retirement, she was cheerful and sociable, and after she was carried downhill. Her parents died during the Leningrad blockade, and her three-year-old son was evacuated through Ladoga, but the convoy was bombed and the car went under the ice.

That same evening, Zvyagin said the following words:

After all, she is simply mortally jealous of us that we are all right. It hurts her …

The next two months Zvyagin devotes to traveling through military archives and meeting with people who could shed light on the fate of the pensioner's son. Needless to say, in the end Zvyagin finds him, the son and mother are reunited and find peace of mind?

When we meet someone who is critical, indifferent, or even angry with us, we should first of all ask the question about the reason for this behavior.

I do not call for saving every person, as Zvyagin did. I suggest that you be more sensitive to those around you. Pain always gives rise to pain, and those who are angry with this world have experienced it the most. If only because of this, they deserve a little care.

When a desire arises in me to criticize or rudely interrupt a person who is unpleasant to me, I recall the words that I once read:

Every person you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be polite. Is always.

There are no people with whom it is impossible to communicate, there are stories of suffering that lurk in the depths of their souls. And each of them deserves to be heard.

I wish you success!