15 signs that you are a mature person

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

These qualities say: over the years you not only grow up, but also gain wisdom.

1. Ability for introspection

You can look at your life through the eyes of an outside observer, take a neutral position in order to evaluate actions, thoughts, emotions. This approach allows you to better understand your strengths and weaknesses and decide in which direction to move on.

2. Self-control

You first think, and then you do, you can calculate the expediency and consequences of actions. An infantile person lives with emotions and momentary desires. Mature - does not break down on loved ones, knows how to remain silent if a stupid conflict is brewing.

3. Gratitude

You have learned to be grateful for what happened to you and what you managed to avoid. You've appreciated the people who make you happy and don't take them for granted.

4. Open-mindedness

You have stopped evaluating a book by its cover, not in words, but in deeds, and people by formal signs and stereotypes. Teenage maximalism no longer interferes with realizing that the world is not black and white, those around you can be different from you and remain good, and sometimes there are several correct opinions.

5. Building boundaries

You understand what is acceptable to you in a relationship - love, friendship, work - and how far you are willing to go, what to sacrifice to keep them. And if someone violates the boundaries of what is permitted, you will act, discuss, and not pretend that nothing happened and everyone lives like this.

6. Strong moral standards

You do not view your actions through the prism of "what people think" or "and if someone sees." A mature person has defined moral boundaries. It is not the inevitability of punishment or possible condemnation that warns him against wrong actions, but a clear realization that this is unacceptable. Therefore, he does not do things that are dubious for himself, even if no one sees or recognizes.

7. Responsibility

You are responsible for words and actions, do not promise the impossible, do not pass decisions on to another. A mature person realizes that the quality of his life is completely his responsibility. External circumstances can make their own adjustments. But if you continue to complain that everything is bad, but do nothing to change the situation, then you are more of an infantile person, and not a victim of circumstances.

8. Acceptance of yourself

You have learned to accept yourself as you are, with all the advantages and disadvantages. This does not mean at all that you need to stop improving and correct shortcomings. But it is worth learning to be satisfied with yourself now, at any stage of the path to the ideal, because this road has no end and it is a shame to spend your whole life hating and reproaching yourself.

9. Patience

You stopped relying only on instant results and learned to wait for the fruits of your labor. For some things to happen, it’s not enough to want them - you have to work hard. And even this does not guarantee that you will achieve your goal.

10. Self-reliance

You understand that no one should solve your problems. A mature person does not act at random in the hope that someone will help swim out of the abyss. To waste money on a trinket and leave the family without food, thinking that parents or friends will throw some money, is infantilism. Correcting behavior so that in the event of a problem situation there is an opportunity to solve everything independently is an act of a mature person.

11. Ability to learn lessons

They learn from mistakes, but not everyone. The mature person learns from failure, recognizes similar situations, and avoids repeated failures.

12. Constructive interaction with reality

You do not run away from problems, do not close your eyes to them, do not think that they will somehow resolve themselves. The mature person recognizes difficulties and looks for ways to cope with them.

13. Honesty

Most of the time, you don't see fit to lie. On the way to maturity, you surrounded yourself with people with whom this is not required: you do not need to wear masks and embellish reality. If you still have to lie, a mature person is aware of why he is doing it. Trying to protect your neighbor's feelings by lying and wanting to manipulate them are not the same thing.

14. Ability to build relationships

A mature person realizes that he is not the center of the Universe, therefore he knows how to build equal partnerships in which he not only takes, but also gives. He is able to be compassionate, supportive, attentive and genuinely interested, and accepts help without feeling vulnerable.

15. Realistic-optimistic view of the world

You really assess the situation, but you do not lose faith in the best and your presence of mind. A mature person understands that good things cannot happen continuously, there are also failures. But black stripes come to an end, especially if you don't give up. However, pessimism and defeatist moods can lead to the fact that there will be no strength to rejoice even on truly bright days.