The only way to be successful is to come to terms with rejection

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

All famous creators, from J. K. Rowling to James Dyson, have experienced the pain of rejection. But if you know how to learn from it, then failure and failure can be the fuel for success.

Nobody wants to be rejected. Take risks, try to get rejected in the end. But if you want to be successful in any area of life, then you need to accept the possibility that you will be refused.

You have no choice: either you take every chance without fear of rejection, or you live in full confidence that you will never realize your dreams.

You lose 100% of the chances you don't use.

For writers, rejection is the norm rather than the exceptional one. For example, Joanne Rowling posted on Twitter two rejection letters she received in response to manuscripts signed with the name of Robert Galbraith.

Bestselling author Joanne Harris recalls, "I got so many rejections from publishing Chocolate that I made a sculpture out of them."

Other notable authors, including James Joyce, George Orwell, and John le Carré, experienced many rejections before their books were finally published. And despite the pain of rejection and subsequent rewriting of the rejected manuscripts, their work only got better as a result.

Why does it hurt so much

Why does rejection make us so sad? After all, rejection is almost never life threatening. The bottom line is our interdependence.

For a person to prosper, he needs a society. During the period of growth and maturation, a person cannot do without other people: if no one takes care of the child, gives him love and attention, he will die. That is why approval, love and harmony in relationships with others are so important to us. Sometimes this is a necessary condition for us to survive.

And the more you depend on the approval and who judges your work, the worse you will feel during the rejection. It also explains why rejection hurts more if your work was personal - an expression of yourself or who you would like to be.

Getting a deuce for a school assignment in an unloved subject or getting scolded for a poorly completed task at work is unpleasant, but not painful. But when you put a part of yourself into a project, you try, you do everything to make it good, and you really see that it turned out well, but in the end you get a refusal, it hurts.

This is the first thing to understand about the negative emotions of rejection. If, instead of sinking into depression and feeling unnecessary, you remember this, one might say, physiological dependence on society, it will become easier.

But why stop? Why not go further? Instead of seeing rejection as bad - something to be avoided at all costs - why not make it work for you? In this case, rejection will help you create something much better than the rejected creation. Here's how you can do it.

Learning from mistakes. How rejection helps you grow

Refusal can make you do better. But we must learn to accept it correctly. Start by not taking rejection personally. Instead of asking yourself, “What's wrong with me?” Look at the rejected job.

Take a closer look. Maybe you can see what she is missing? Or maybe the way you decided to achieve your dream is not quite right for this?

Artist Dexter Dalwood said in his message to students: “If you want your ideas to be successful, be prepared for rejection. Frequent. They are included."

Refusal is part of the production process and an integral part of art. An excellent example is the creative path of James Dyson, the British inventor, thanks to whom the modern hand dryers and the G-Force cyclonic vacuum cleaner appeared.

Dyson finds rejections very useful. His bagless vacuum project has gone through 5,127 modifications and countless rejections from retailers.

Following the launch of the most recent invention, the Airblade Tap mixer-mounted hand dryer, James Dyson told the BBC, "It's the best medicine as long as you keep learning."

When you fail, you learn something - this is how failures help. It pushes you to do something again and do it better.

Andreas Eriksson, a professor at the University of Colorado, investigated the habits of children learning to play the violin from the age of five to adulthood. He found that a significant factor in determining success was how many hours of practice the young violinist devoted to music, how much he wanted to improve his playing.

The writer Malcolm Gladwell popularized this idea, which became known as the "10,000 hour rule." This means that in order to achieve success and achieve heights in your business, you will need about 10,000 hours of work, criticism and a constructive response to it.

Some people, when faced with rejection, wonder when they should stop trying. The answer is never. If you have a dream, something that you believe in and want to achieve, keep going towards your goal.