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2023 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-07-28 10:38
Spying prevents us from getting through a breakup and starting a new relationship.
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The relationship is over. It would seem that you need to grieve and move on. But not a day goes by that you do not go to the page of a former partner on social networks, trying to find out who he spends time with and who likes him. It does not bring any joy - on the contrary, you plunge into melancholy, jealousy and anger. But you still can't stop yourself.
Why do we follow the ex
Social networks provoke us
Previously, in order to follow a person, you would have to watch him at the entrance, steal mail, maybe even break into an apartment or hire a private detective. Such behavior could, at best, earn the glory of a mentally unhealthy person. And at worst, there is also a prison term, especially in those countries where stalking - that is, surveillance and stalking - is taken seriously.
It's much easier now. If a person is active in social networks, he himself will tell the whole world where he was today and who he saw.
Find a hobby, take on additional projects, try to get out of the house more often and make new acquaintances - not necessarily romantic ones. So, first of all, you won't have time for stalking. And secondly, your life will definitely become more interesting and richer.
Get rid of the irritant
If you see your former partner in the feed every day, it will be quite difficult not to visit his page. Remove it from your friend list, or at least hide it from the news - at least until the passions subside.
In more severe cases - when surveillance has already become a habit with you - you may have to blacklist the object of your unhealthy interest. Or even block its pages using special services.
And of course, as a heavy artillery, you can even arrange a digital detox for yourself and not go to social networks at all. Until the feelings cool down and you realize that you are ready to move on.
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