Table of contents:
- 1. Touch your loved one
- 2. Don't jump to conclusions
- 3. Introduce fights from the outside
- 4. Write down what you are grateful for your partner
- 5. Accept compliments
- 6. Celebrate small accomplishments
2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44
Many people are not satisfied with their relationship due to the lack of emotional closeness with a partner. If you want to receive care and attention, start giving them first.
Many couples are so busy with work and children that they spend very little time alone with each other. If your job doesn't allow you to have weekly dates or go on vacation together, follow these simple tips. You won't spend a lot of time and energy on them, but they will help strengthen the relationship.
1. Touch your loved one
Scientists conducted an experiment in which couples watched a movie together. The first group of subjects was forbidden to touch their partner while watching. And the members of the second group had to touch each other all the time.
It turned out that the subjects from the second group were more confident in the love of their life partners. This feeling was not prevented even by the knowledge that the touch of a partner is a condition of the experiment. The subjects' minds realized that they were not spontaneously taken by the hand, but they still felt much happier.
2. Don't jump to conclusions
If a loved one made a mistake, for example, did not answer calls for a long time, do not panic. Scientists have found that happy and unhappy couples differ in that they perceive and interpret their partner's misconduct differently.
Those who are unhappy in a relationship believe that any misstep by their partner is a flaw in their character, and not a consequence of the current situation. If a person does not answer the call, this does not mean that he does not care about you. Perhaps he just has a lot to do. Before plaguing yourself with guesses, think about alternative reasons for his action.
3. Introduce fights from the outside
120 married couples took part in a study in which, during the first two years of marriage, they were surveyed about their life together.
During the first year, the relationship became less satisfying, which is a common occurrence. A year later, some couples, when a quarrel arose, had to think about disagreements with their partner from the point of view of a third disinterested person who wishes happiness to both. How would this person feel about your conflict? How would he benefit both of you?
This exercise had a positive effect on the subjects. During the second year of their life together, their relationship improved, in contrast to those who did not understand the conflict from the outside.
4. Write down what you are grateful for your partner
Participants in another experiment were asked to record several actions of a loved one once a week that helped strengthen their relationship. The other half of the subjects had to write down how they personally contributed.
Those who listed a partner's merits were more interested in the relationship and were also more grateful to their significant other than those who praised themselves. The experiment showed that you need to thank your loved one more often.
5. Accept compliments
The expectation of being dismissive from your partner destroys the relationship. People with low self-esteem can find it difficult to believe that they are truly loved. Therefore, they are skeptical about the attachment and compliments of a partner in order to avoid the frustration of a possible breakup. This behavior can scare the other person off.
Scientists asked insecure people to remember the unusual compliments they received from a loved one. A simple description of the situation had no effect. The participants perceived the compliment as a lucky coincidence.
The subjects then thought about what their partner praised them for and described how it mattered to them and their relationship. This helped them understand that a loved one is thereby showing their love and care.
6. Celebrate small accomplishments
When a loved one talks about their day's successes, be delighted with the news. Ask questions so he can share even more joy with you and relive those moments.
Scientists analyzed the relationship of couples who adhered to this advice. It turned out that thanks to this, both partners were even more happy about their successes. In addition, it brought them closer and strengthened their relationship.
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