How to help a loved one lose weight

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

You suddenly notice that you cannot sit next to your friend on public transport: it is crowded. Or that the new jeans of the second half are three sizes larger than a year ago. In general, you see that a loved one needs to lose weight. How to motivate, but not hurt a person and help him cope with the difficulties of losing weight, read the article.

Here it is, the day when the question "How do I look?" you have to either lie or say: "You are fat / fat".

It's one thing if a loved one has added a couple of kilos (yes, at least all five), but has not gone beyond the boundaries of a healthy norm, and you basically want to see a slender Apollo or an even more slender nymph next to you. And it is completely different when excess weight creates real problems with appearance and well-being. Here you really need to take some steps. I'll make a reservation right away that in this article I mean exactly the second case: a person has neglected himself, and the weight threatens with unpleasant consequences.

Who needs it

When you said that you need to change, and the person immediately revised the meal plan and started running, there is nothing to discuss. In the real world, people are offended, naughty, and grieving.

If a person gets fat and does not want to change anything, then he does not need it. You need it.

It is you who will have to make a firm decision that you want to drag a friend or loved one up to healthy kilograms on your hump. Why is this necessary - the second question, but since you are reading this, the answer is known.

Face to face with the facts

Explaining to a loved one why you are concerned about his figure is the most difficult thing that can be in this process. When you find the right words, you can consider that half the job is done.

Speak the truth. Without the truth, you will not motivate anyone. But you have to puzzle over the wording. On the one hand, the words should reflect the full scale of a possible catastrophe. On the other hand, to show your sincere intentions.

Focus on health and your relationships, rather than beauty and aesthetic preferences, so as not to provoke the development of complexes.

But this is another catch, especially when you're trying to motivate a girl. Your explanations will be dissected in search of insincerity.

Do you think I'm fat ?!

I suppose there is no need to explain to anyone why it is impossible to say that. Better tell me why you care about other people's pounds, what benefit you personally get when they melt. Compare how phrases sound for a girlfriend or boyfriend:

• You look bad.
• I want to be looked at as two beautiful friends. And they did not think that the thin one goes everywhere with the plump specially, for the background.

For a partner:

• I am not attracted to your figure.
• I want to live a long and happy life with you and I don’t want the fight against diseases due to excess weight to distract us from more interesting activities.
• Everything is too good with us to spoil the relationship with some pounds.

For parents:

• You don't look after yourself at all.
• I want you to see your great grandchildren.

That is, you need to hook a person, find an important reason, without offending or accusing.

What not to do:

• Insult. Because you should never do that at all.
• Blame. Because it takes away confidence.
• Threatening a break in relations. Because to hell with this relationship.

Ask directly what you should do

A magical remedy. Ask how you can help. Do you need your advice, going to the gym, running support? And what can you do to make the road to harmony easier? Suddenly a person has ideas, he was just embarrassed to ask.

Share information

Collect information about what helps to lose weight: with which services it is convenient to keep track of nutrition, what workouts are needed for losing weight, how fast it is normal to lose pounds, how to make plans and how to stick to them, where to get motivation. And then send everything you find to the addressee. Do not forget to dose the flow of information so that the person does not get bored.

Such research work must be carried out so that a person does not have an idea to lose weight with the help of fast diets or miraculous remedies. You and I know that they do not work, but someone may not know.

And this work will also help you not to wait for an instant effect from your own initiative: the words "it's time for you to lose weight" have no effect, weight loss can take months.

Do not provoke a diet breakdown

If you live together, take the food into your own hands. Remove all unsafe foods from your home, including sugar stores. Themselves go exclusively to a healthy diet, so that a person simply does not have an alternative: only steamed fish, only healthy lifestyle. You may even have to learn how to cook.

If you save your friends from body fat, then in their presence you are also on a diet. And you don't even mention how you cooked potatoes with a cheese crust as a side dish for pork, you don't even publish recipes on the wall in the social network. Yes, no one said that it would be easy to "lose weight" another person.

Help get started

Sometimes people are just embarrassed to start losing weight.

How can you go to the gym so full? Everyone will laugh.

It will be right for you to find a good coach on your own and explain the situation to him so that he can support the beginner. And then give a loved one a few lessons from this very coach.

Someone is ready to lose weight on a bet if there is a significant amount at stake. Argue and bet, you win anyway.

And someone needs more imagination to start. For example, you can make up a condition: if you want to eat a cake, first run around the block three times. Funny and effective enough.

Don't control every step

When you have found a coach and bought a subscription, do not run to check how the person is doing there. Allow the opportunity to work independently and not under your watchful eye. You are not an overseer.

An exception is if a loved one himself asks you to attend classes.

Prepare for War

It's paradoxical. But many of your mutual acquaintances, friends or relatives will criticize you for trying to help a friend or partner, and not this friend for being overweight.

Teach the mantra: I don't know what goals all these people have, but I care about you because … (see the paragraph on motivation and self-interest).

Some comrades who are not comrades at all will have to be shut up pretty hard. Or even stop communicating. Because it is difficult to imagine that a person is advised to quit a healthy lifestyle for good reasons.

Never set yourself up as an example

If you are ready to say a phrase that begins with "here I am," you better shut up. You are not a role model, but a caring person. And do not pull up a loved one to your "star" level, but want to help him.

Your opinion about being overweight can already hurt a person, and if you show that you think you are better, they will simply not listen to you.

Praise every step

Be especially happy when a friend or loved one looks better than you. And get ready to pay more attention to your lifestyle in order to match.