What to do when people piss you off: advice from Leo Babauta

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

A well-known blogger told how to achieve calmness in just three steps.

Don't try to change the other person's behavior, change your attitude. Perhaps many will outrage this. Why do you need to change something in yourself when someone bothers you? Because this way you will be happy with any person.

By trying to change everyone you meet, you doom yourself to misery.

Imagine that the entire earth's surface is covered with shards of glass. You can try to close it with something from above in order to walk calmly, only this is impossible. Much easier to put on shoes. This also applies to dealing with annoying people.

Notice that you are angry. Notice how your mind convinces you of dislike for this person. You start blaming him, thinking what is wrong with him, why he is behaving so unceremoniously.

Such thoughts will not help you. They will only upset and complicate relations with others. Let them go. To calm down, follow these three steps:

1. Admit that you don't like the way the person is behaving. You are unhappy with the current situation. But in this way you reject part of reality. Be open to everything in life and don't reject anything.
2. Imagine that you are standing on the bank of a river and want to change the direction of its flow. You will only be upset because it is impossible. Now imagine that the other person is the river. Dreaming of him to change, you just upset yourself.
3. Try to see and accept him as he is. Look at him as an ordinary person with his sufferings, shortcomings and habits. Some of them annoy you, but this is completely natural.

Be open to everything. Don't reject others.

Try to see each person with their suffering and love them for who they are.

It will change you. You will learn to build relationships with other people without judging them.