How to develop responsibility

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Summing up the results of October that ended, I regretfully have to admit that I did not have enough responsibility. Unfortunately, I have not found a guide to developing this quality for adults on the Internet. Therefore, I had to write the manual myself.

Hope it helps you too.

First, let's figure it out, what is responsibility? The dictionary gives the following interpretation: "a subjective obligation to be responsible for actions and actions, as well as their consequences." In yoga, where one of the values is awareness of life, I was told that the word "responsibility" comes from the root "Veda" and means " I know what I am doing ". It sounds beautiful, but linguists say that the root is veteo (advice), which goes back to βουλή, which means will from ancient Greek. It’s just the will - this is the ability to consciously manage your life. So the yoga coach was close to the truth.

Learn to admit your mistakes. This is probably the hardest part. The moment you are praised or thanked, each of us is pleased. Only when we hear criticism or censure, we behave in a completely different way. It is very difficult not to start on the defensive, trying to make the other guilty. But it is much more correct to say "Sorry" and describe what exactly you regret. This is where you develop an understanding of actions.

It's even harder to apologize if you've been caught in a lie. After all, then it will be necessary to tell the truth, and not just suggest ways to resolve the situation.

Draw lines of responsibility. Obviously, you cannot be responsible for everyone and everything. Therefore, it is worth considering regularly, but where is the border? Each of us is responsible, first of all, for ourselves. Therefore, in this example, let's try to draw boundaries.

Let's try to answer the questions:

• Who is responsible for my thoughts, actions, words? Definitely myself.
• Who is responsible for my health? If you treat him irresponsibly for a long time, then the moment will come when the doctor will answer. Until then.
• Who is responsible for my reputation? Me and my loved ones.
• Who is responsible for my comfort? A married man will answer - my wife.
• Etc.

It is worth drawing boundaries not only in relation to yourself. That being said, remember: "A lot of things are not in the zone of our influence, which means we cannot be responsible for them" … You cannot take responsibility for the consequences of an earthquake - you are not the Lord God. You are only responsible for how to spend $ 10 - donate it or buy a new book.

Formulate the rules and stick to them. Decisions are always difficult. And often for a long time. That is why people have come up with rules, laws, morals. But we are all different, some may be more, some may be less. Therefore, adhering to other people's rules is not always true. Moreover, other people's rules often conflict not only with our idea of what is correct, but also with each other.

In conclusion, I will paraphrase the words of Antoine de Saint-Exupery: “ We are responsible for what we have done ».