Table of contents:
- 1. Be afraid to ask for help
- 2. Save bad relationships
- 3. Concentrate on your flaws
- 4. Too worry about other people's opinions
- 5. To envy
2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44
Looking back, people regret not the hours spent uselessly on social networks and watching TV series, but about bad habits that have alienated them from their desired goal - for a long time or forever.
1. Be afraid to ask for help
It's great to be able to do everything alone, but sometimes being too independent becomes a problem. Those who cannot step over their pride to ask for help from someone more competent run the risk of redoing the work over and over again, wasting a lot of valuable time and nerves.
There are many people who are happy to share their experience and teach. If it is inconvenient to ask for a free service, you can help the person in return.
2. Save bad relationships
This applies to friendships and love relationships. School friends who are tolerated for the sake of pleasant memories from ten years ago, and marriages in which love has not lived for a long time.
Relationships that are definitely not worth saving can be easily recognized by three signs: illusions about points of contact, fear of loneliness, and fear of change.
Trying to establish such a relationship with a stranger is a waste of time.
3. Concentrate on your flaws
It is worth noting the shortcomings. But excessive obsession with them slows down your development.
It is not far from self-digging to declaring oneself a loser. And losers have no reason to achieve their goals, they are warm in a cocoon of their own weaknesses.
It is better to consider any shortcoming immediately from the standpoint of short-term and long-term goals. Ask yourself three questions:
- Can this be changed?
- Should I change it?
- How to do it?
After answering them, make a plan and take action immediately.
4. Too worry about other people's opinions
We realize that we should not and cannot like everyone, but we still worry about what others will say about us. It takes a tremendous amount of effort to prove your point of view to others and try to be as comfortable as possible for everyone.
It is worth correcting your qualities for those closest to you and only if it will benefit you too. Doing this for everyone and everyone is not at all necessary. We do not know the reasons why someone does not like us. We may be envied or simply trying to undermine our self-confidence.
5. To envy
Envy is one of the most destructive feelings for a person. In pursuit of unnecessary things and qualities, we waste time that could have been spent on something useful.
Most advertising for unnecessary things is built on the feeling of envy. And we buy them!
It is better to calmly examine the feeling of envy from the outside, to disassemble it into its components. Understand what exactly you want to adopt, whether you need it at all and why.
Envy can be a helper if handled correctly and turned into a tool for setting your own goals. But for this, a cold mind must immediately be connected to the feeling of envy.
What habits from the past do you regret the most?
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