2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44
Does someone's tweet about their talents and accomplishments upset you? Does updating your opponent's status on Facebook or Vkontakte make you angry? It's time to step back from social media, forget about the forces beyond your control, and focus on only one thing: trying to be the best in real life, not virtual.
Typically, when an important task is assigned, you feel lost, confused, frightened and lonely. It doesn't matter if it's a major project or a new relationship, a step into the unknown can scare the hell out of him.
Particularly worried in such situations is the one who is used to putting everything on the shelves, separating flies from cutlets, dividing life into white and black stripes. On the one hand, you feel vulnerable. On the other hand, readiness to fight.
At first, the feeling that "everything is gone, chief", but at the same second a positive attitude appears, and a minute later there is hopelessness again. However, after some time it turns out that this whole waterfall of emotions is not substantiated by anything.
It's just a habit of constantly comparing yourself and your own achievements with others. And it doesn't bode well for you. What to do to be successful? You need to take a single lane of traffic, and it will take a lot of work, time and courage to build it.
You compare yourself to how you feel
When we compare ourselves to others - our career, personal life, or specific actions - we only relate ourselves to our own perception of that person. We will never know his true nature.
It's perfectly okay to admire certain things - work ethic, sense of humor, style of dress, but they are only part of something bigger. But you never fully know for sure whether everything is really the way it is described. And sometimes real introverts are confused with extroverts.
Never mind the bragging rights
It's difficult. It is perhaps impossible to completely uproot this habit from oneself. Sometimes you still feel resentment or even envy towards others' successes. But there is enough success around us for everyone.
It is extremely difficult to rejoice in other people's achievements when you desperately want your own. But, frankly, is this achievement really necessary for you ?! Find out exactly what you want, regardless of others.
Beyond the numbers
The feeling of inadequacy arising from comparing oneself to others is exacerbated by social media: Twitter, Facebook, Vkontaktek, Instagram. It may seem that everyone has something to brag about to others besides you.
However, the numbers remain bare numbers - be it the number of followers, balloons, likes. Just numbers. Maybe your achievement is not so tangible, but the very fact of its accomplishment is extremely important to you, regardless of whether you share it with others or not.
Sometimes your favorite things - videos, photos, projects - that are extremely valuable to you, get the minimum share. And this is how success is measured ??? Create your own definition of success, your own bar of achievement. And measure yourself only by it!
One on one with myself
Sounds a little crazy, but there is only YOU. You are unique. This means that your experience, your perception of the world is unique. This is what makes you special and amazing.
But you can just be yourself, or you can be the best version of yourself as much as possible. And no matter how you try, you still won't be able to become someone else. There is always someone smarter, taller, slimmer, stronger or richer. The game of the king of the hill - in this case, is a failure and is physically impossible.
Adequate comparison
It is fair to say that you are as good as your opponent is.
Competition is sometimes very rewarding. She pushes you to expand the boundaries of your consciousness.
However, it is equally important not to let your opponent ruin his plans to create what you love and what you believe in. Comparing yourself to others can be very exhausting.
The constant flow of braggers on the Internet, in magazines, in our world full of self-promotion, where everything revolves around our own self, can have a very, very negative impact. If you will, of course, allow. Do you want to succeed? Then you have to be your best self.
And as the famous English poet, writer and essayist, Oscar Wilde once said:
Be yourself, the rest of the roles are already taken.
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