8 ways to improve your personal life

1. Avoid empty talk

During a meeting, do not waste too many words (and precious time) asking your subject of your sympathy routine questions about the weather or work. Dive right in. Ask more complete questions from the beginning. For example, instead of asking, "What do you do at work?"

On the one hand, a person may not be very comfortable with immediately moving on to significant issues, but if he is not comfortable with you from the very beginning, then most likely you are not suitable for each other.

It is worth replacing stupid chatter with a real conversation about our fears and outlook on life, without simply listing the facts - everything that we usually tell about ourselves when we meet. The questions should not be too personal, but should show your sincere interest, help to continue the dialogue and lead it deeper, and not be limited to superficial words.

This method can also come in handy in order to make friends. Ask a new acquaintance or colleague about something important and beloved for him - the person will be much more interested in you.

2. Do not be afraid to fight in marriage and fight for it

Constant scandals sooner or later exhaust the spouses and lead to divorce. However, their complete absence can also be disastrous. Conflicts should not be avoided in every possible way, nor should they be started just like that.

Feel free to express your feelings and listen to your partner - this will help keep the relationship alive. It is better to solve problems in a timely manner than to wait for an insoluble tangle to emerge from them, which will only have to be cut.

3. Let people know who they are

Make sure your loved ones really know you before it's too late. Tell them about your feelings, thoughts and desires, do not hide them inside yourself. Get to know your loved ones really well.

4. Get married at will, not out of necessity

We often fall under the yoke of social obligations that dictate a certain way of life to us. We may feel guilty if we don't find a spouse in time. However, we all know the traumatic consequences of a failed marriage.

5. Sex is not love

Do not substitute one concept for another. If you feel good with a person here and now, but you do not see yourself with him in a few years, you are not comfortable together, then think about whether this is love at all. The opposite is also true - without raging passion, you can build wonderful relationships and families.

6. Try treating heart pain like a headache

When we are abandoned, we experience pain that is similar to that experienced by people when they recover from alcohol or drug addiction. Love activates the same reward centers as, for example, cocaine. For the same reason, we try to meet again and again with the object of love, we physically need it.

Studies show that this pain can be tamed as well as physical pain, such as paracetamol. And while we are struggling with feelings, we feel broken morally and physically. But therein lies the possibility of a cure.

If you are suffering from a broken heart, take paracetamol.

7. Talk about what you want out of the relationship

If you somehow found yourself in the friend zone, but want more, then do not expect the object of your love to magically figure it out. Be bolder and be direct about what you want.

Yes, you can lose friendship, but clarity will be your reward. The ability to express their feelings and talk about them to a partner will also benefit already established couples.

8. Get what you want

How often do we regret missed opportunities? You don't need to go to extremes, but taking the phone from your favorite fellow traveler on the bus is better than regretting your whole life that you didn't.