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2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44
Check yourself.
A new useful thread has appeared on Twitter. In it, a social psychologist told what reasons most problems in relationships are usually reduced to - and what actions will help to build relationships that are adequate and comfortable for partners.
Major relationship problems
ABEW. Do you feel like giving more than you receive, while feeling guilty? These are the mildest symptoms, then it happens on an increasing basis, until the partner begins to allow himself physical violence. Yes, getting out of them psychologically is really not so easy.
such a relationship usually follows the pattern
1.the period of love, the feeling of sho everything is perfect
2.increasing voltage
3.climax (tantrums, scandals, fights)
4. "parting"
5.see point 1 (and around)
Many live like this all their lives, and the most dumb sho some still do it consciously
JEALOUSY. Uncontrolled. As a rule, it happens for several reasons:
-low self-esteem
- fear of loss
- distrust of a partner
This does not mean that jealousy cannot be justified, the main thing is that the jealous Schaub was ready to talk and listen.
EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCE. The one in which a person has the word "I" is replaced by the word "WE". When the meaning of a person's life begins to revolve around his partner.
CHANGES. There are many reasons why they occur, but nevertheless, if it happened as a fact, then forgiving something like that or not is the business of every person, BUT as a recommendation - at the beginning of a relationship, it is worth immediately saying sho for both is considered treason, and finding understanding between each other.
LOVE AND SEX AS A SHANTAGE. Relationships become like market ones, one of the most popular manipulations. Do not be fooled only if you are not satisfied with this.
DESIRE TO BIRTH A CHILD AS A WAY TO CORRECT THE RELATIONSHIP. The most short-sighted solution to problems, works in about 0 cases out of 10. Most likely, it will aggravate existing problems, up to parting, and the baby is unlikely to say thanks.
How to build healthy relationships
First, I’ll say that ABILITY TO TALK IN PAIR, literally in words through the mouth, can save you from sooo many problems and make you better understand each other. It is worth mutually sharing your experiences and feelings with your partner. This is one of the important aspects of a healthy relationship.
When speaking and trust between people increases. If you master this skill, you already save yourself in advance from a whole pile of moral corrals that can accumulate and affect your relationship a little later. A super huge number of problems start with omissions.
ABILITY TO EXPRESS EMOTIONS is just as important, you don't need to throw accusations at a person if you are not satisfied with his behavior.
example: "you are so bad" replace "I feel bad because you do this."
About emotional addiction:
If you notice this, then you should deliberately try to do something separately from your partner. Cultivate self-reliance. Don't lose yourself.
MUTUAL RESPECT. Your partner may have a personal space that he would not want Schaub to be violated and this is the norm. For example, a person is not obliged to show personal correspondence on demand. It is worth respecting the boundaries of your partner. And do not neglect his interests and goals
SUPPORT. Everyone can have their own dreams, aspirations, fears. For many people (much more than you think, and even if this is a "strong and self-sufficient" person) it is very important that at least moral support was provided to a person, from a loved one it is all the more important.
SECOND CHANCE. Not to be confused with "second" chances in abusive relationships. If people converge again, then you need to understand that this is not exactly the return of old relationships, but a new experience, in which the same people, but who have gone through the separation and learned from their experiences.
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