REVIEW: “Stress resistance. How to stay calm and efficient in all situations”, Sharon Melnik

Stress is my sore point

Judge for yourself:

Young father
Hard worker
Perfectionist
Restless and nervous person
I am constantly experiencing a lack of finance
I live in Russia))

Oh, this book has fallen into the right hands! I used to give myself up to stress without a trace. Increased pressure, headaches, endless whining … I just wanted to run away, hide, fall on my mother's boobs - a pitiful sight. Not surprisingly, all my life I have shied away from any strenuous activity. I chose ready-made solutions. He behaved modestly. I didn't understand what stress is, where it comes from. For me it was an absolutely negative phenomenon. The first book that made me look at stress differently is the book "Stress Surfing" by Ivan Kirillov. I liked the book and got a rating of 7/10 in my review. For a whole month, I purposefully tracked stressful situations and fought with them according to Kirillov. My attitude towards stress has changed completely. From helplessly negative to confidently positive:

Stress is an essential component of growth
Stress is a test of myself that makes me stronger. The next time I'll handle the stress more easily
Stress - shakes up my life and does not allow me to stagnate
Avoiding stress will only make stress stronger the next time

If before I avoided stress, now I strive for it. These ideas in general have seriously "poked me" me. It was they who pushed me to, for example, that I declared 2014 for myself - "A Year outside the comfort zone" and waved a savage to Thailand for the winter. And yet I have not been able to completely banish "bad stress" from my life. Therefore, I gladly responded to the offer of Mann, Ivanov and Ferber Publishing House to review their new book “Stress Resilience” by Sharon Melnik.

I read the book for a long time

No, not what you thought. The book is easy to read. It's just that every paragraph of the text forced me to stop, put off the reader and remember, remember, remember. I pondered various incidents from my life: conflicts with colleagues, minor domestic troubles, blockages at work. And the most important thing is my REACTION to them. So, here's what the book is about:

Too much stress
Phobias
How not to worry about what others think
Self-doubt
Anger management
Relationship stress
And much more!

Book format

Sharon Melnik is a practicing psychologist and this is VISIBLE. The book turned out to be on the case. She examines common sources of stress. Everything in mini-story format. Each chapter ends with exercises. There are also various tests. This is great. This is how applied books should be written. In general, I have not seen such a book filled with specific advice for a long time. You are already beginning to get used to the fact that in any book 90% of the garbage and you have to read because of the remaining 10%. Everything is different here. The book is useful inside and out. I did not even try to write out the valuable thoughts of the book in this review. We'll have to stupidly rewrite it all.

An amazing coincidence?

Sharon in the book only refers to those authors who received the maximum points in my rating list of the best books:

"7 skills" by Stephen Covey
"Stream" by Mihaya Csikszentmihalyi
"GTD" by David Allen
"Never Eat Alone" by Keith Ferrazi.

Considering that I am usually very stingy with tens, this is simply amazing. It turns out that she is my like-minded person?))

Summary

Read: necessarily. Everyone. Grade: 10/10 It's not just good books that I read and put aside that get the highest marks from me. And those books that make me change my life, make me write down some specific steps in my planner, and so on. Stress Resilience will definitely change my life. I have already planned to read it the SECOND time. I will make a "battle cheat sheet" to work on myself and my attitude to stress. In the near future, more articles inspired by Sharon's ideas will appear here or on my blog. By the way, reading the book itself has a powerful healing effect. I began to read the book, exhausted from the work stress that had taken possession of me in recent days. And he ended up already calm and confident. As if I had attended a psychologist's session)) Thank you, Sharon Miller!