4 things a father-to-be should remember

It's okay to be afraid of becoming a father. You will never be ready for this until your spouse gives birth to your first child. This is the unknown. This is an instant restructuring of the daily routine and periodic lack of sleep in the first six months. This is a change in the working rhythm and arguments with childless colleagues and bosses about what is primary for a person - work or family. These are pats on the shoulder and lamentations of parents: "I have become quite an adult." These are family night vigils. But if you know about some things in advance, you can make life easier for yourself and your spouse.

1. Take care of your child's mother

Your wife needs support before, during and after childbirth. Pregnancy is nausea in the first trimester, back aches the rest of the time, periodic visits to the antenatal clinic with tests and psychological restructuring.

Your spouse may start to lash out at you or say that you smell unpleasant. If you are unlucky, then you will be "smitten" for all nine months. Remember this is temporary, be indulgent and patient. During pregnancy, turn into a little "parent" for a woman: fulfill her whims and bring home gifts.

Stay close during labor. It is not necessary to be present at the most crucial moment. But if the doctors did not order a cesarean section, then the process of childbirth is likely to be lengthy and tedious. After them, the woman needs to rest, and with or without you - she will decide for herself.

After giving birth, some mothers write on social networks exclusively with a lot of funny emoticons and exclamation marks. Know that they are probably dissembling.

Approximately 15% of young mothers suffer from postpartum depression, which must be treated with the help of a specialist.

BabyCenter singles out baby blues in a separate category - a woman's melancholic state, similar to postpartum depression, but less pronounced. The baby blues can go on for two weeks after leaving the hospital, during which time your concern is especially important.

2. Do not whine about trifles and do not ask what for dinner

The baby blues-like condition can also begin in the father. This is a time when you cannot just go and go to a bar to drink beer, because you have to bathe the child, feed, if artificial feeding is practiced in the family, clean up more often and more thoroughly and help more actively around the house.

At this time, it is better not to complain, because this is unfair to the mother of the child, who will probably want to put you in your place.

The invisible front at home is just as tiring as your work, so it's best to forget the usual phrase “What’s for supper” for now. Some women don't like her at all.

3. Learn from your mother

Being a responsible father will betray you a progressive element of human evolution. Mothers love their babies because their bond is instinctive and hormonal. You will surely fall in love with your child, but perhaps not right away.

In the meantime, with a shiver you take an unfamiliar creature in your arms and do not know what to do with it and how to put it, learn from its mother faster. She kept this blow back in the hospital and is able to do something. Empathy and affection will quickly do the trick.

In addition to the ability to swaddle, change diapers, lure and lull, you need the desire to do all this, or at least the realization that your spouse cannot cope without you. You will also have to get up at night.

4. Relax sometimes

When the shock of realizing oneself in a new role has passed, there will be time for rest.

In the first three months, the baby looks more like a large zucchini, which for some reason needs to be fed, swaddled and shifted to the other side. At this time, it is advisable to sing songs, play something simple and calm on the guitar, or just stand nearby and be moved, but sometimes you can allow yourself to relax.

Gradually, the child will demand more and more attention. At 7-8 months, babies begin to crawl, and then you will remember the calm first months.