5 things in parenting chats that make your eyes twitch

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Why do we hate school groups in messengers and what to do in order not to infuriate others.

If there is on Earth the embodiment of pure evil, then these are parental chats. A good intention to unite the class and quickly resolve issues with the help of instant messengers opens the gates of hell. And now, as soon as the child goes to kindergarten or school, the parents find themselves in hell, and there is no turning back. If you leave the chat, you will miss important information that no one will duplicate in the form of an explanation (why, is there in the chat anyway?). If you stay in a conversation, you will not be able to see what you see.

And all because in parental chats there are always situations that infuriate.

All dialogues and situations in the article are real. The spelling and punctuation of the original messages has been preserved. We have changed only the names.

1. Endless spam

In theory, chats are needed to solve current problems and to dangle less often to meetings. In practice, this is endless chatter, which has nothing to do with learning.

In the chat of a class or group, photos appear from sunny beaches (“We’re on vacation!”), Incomprehensible constructions (“We did the job”), cats that urgently need to be attached. But this is still not so bad. Much more interesting are fans of heartbreaking stories about twelve bandits ("This is secret information from the FSB!"), Which, of course, must be passed on to someone else. Everyone at school threw similar letters of happiness to each other, then they explained to everyone that this was nonsense. But this example clearly illustrates that school knowledge is rarely applied in practice.

Well, congratulations. It seems to be good that everyone wants to please, and many probably like these bright pictures and simple poems. But 28 blinking, iridescent colorful cards can make you dizzy.

Chat is needed for conversations, but finding the information you need in a spam stream is difficult: sometimes you have to read hundreds of messages in order to dig up the answer to an important question in them.

What to do to avoid being a spammer

Before you write to the chat, answer a few questions:

• Does this concern the school?
• Is this true information?
• Has anyone talked about this in the chat yet?

If all the answers are "yes" - write.

2. Discussions during business hours

By themselves, non-working (or working, but at a non-stressful job) parents do not bother anyone. But everything changes when, in the midst of a busy day, they start an important conversation. As a result, even the most persistent ones turn off the sound of the smartphone.

And in the evening they discover that “In our class, no one is interested in anything”, “No one cares about children,” “It's sad that only three or four parents need all this, and the rest do not itch.”

What to do so as not to interfere with people to work

Active and free parents are great. But do not forget that people still work, most of them until at least 17:00. And they have no time to be distracted. Postpone the discussion of important issues for the evening or delegate them directly to the parent committee.

3. Collective solution of homework

It's one thing to clarify what was asked. Every day someone in the class is on sick leave, so such questions are inevitable and understandable. But when the chat collectively begins to solve tasks for elementary school, it becomes sad. And not only because serious adults sometimes cannot answer an elementary question (not everything is so smooth with the assignments), but because it is not the parents' task at all to do their homework. Especially in the general chat, fanning the conversation.

But we have already graduated from school, why do we need it? After all, if there is any benefit to homework, it is nurturing self-reliance.

How not to involve the collective mind in your homework

It is enough to do nothing. Let the child complete his tasks, do not interfere with his development and stuffing bumps.

4."Very literate" messages

There are surprising mistakes in parental correspondence. Typos and strange autocorrect are acceptable and understandable. But "uchitil", "pidagog", "lay down" and "maybe not" are already too much. Against this background, the inexplicable passion for the use of diminutive suffixes (jacket, denyuzhka, kids) does not even irritate.

The group of "very grammatical" includes people who do not know how to count. They ask why they collect 200 rubles for a printer that costs 6,000 (after all, there are 30 people in the class!). It is better not to discuss with them without a calculator.

What to do to write correctly

Learn and practice, or as a last resort, use a spell checker before sending a message.

5. Lack of etiquette in correspondence

One thought stretches into 20 short messages that come in two minutes apart. The question just answered is being asked again. Dividing the text into paragraphs so that it is convenient to read is a case on the verge of fantasy. Personal conversations in the general chat, and not in private correspondence. Endless “I don’t know” answers, although the question was addressed to those who do. In general, there are a hundred more pointless irritants in parental chats.

Let's say that etiquette in messengers has not yet had time to really take shape, although some rules do not interfere with studying. But often in chats they forget about banal politeness and propriety. For example, calling the chosen gift to the teacher “junk” or becoming personal (“You don’t care about your child, but I don’t!”), When nothing foreshadowed a formidable outbreak, is a common thing. And no mythical "school level" can save you from this, it's all about people. You don't have to interfere in cool wars, but even watching them from the outside is unpleasant.

How to follow etiquette in correspondence

First of all, one must remember the simple rules of communication and still try to solve problems, and not sort things out. Well, study the norms of modern etiquette in conversations.