2023 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-07-28 10:38
Are you trying to build harmonious and happy relationships within your family? Start with seven simple things.
We all dream of happy relationships like the ones shown in the movies. But in real life, it often happens that people do not have time to live even a year and are already disappointed in each other, they get bored. Without finding common interests, they spend less and less time together and eventually part.
Why it happens? Because we do nothing to strengthen the relationship.
For some reason, it seems to us that everything should go on its own course and without our intervention. Unfortunately, this is very rare. A happy family life is also a job. Work above all on yourself.
In my relationship with my wife, there was also a period when it seemed to us that the relationship had reached an impasse and everything was over. Only a child kept us from parting. And in order to save the family, we decided to start all over again - according to new rules and from scratch.
I will share with you a few simple tips that have kept our family life and made us happier than we were before. Believe me, these are very simple things that we agreed to do every day, and, as time has shown, this is exactly what our relationship previously lacked. These things brought us closer together and made us feel again that we are one family.
1. We began to dine together
Previously, we ate separately, but now dinner has become a kind of ritual when we sit down at the table with the whole family. We agreed on this when we realized that during the day we have little time to be together, because everyone is busy with their own business.
Sometimes we go out to a restaurant, but more often we have dinner at home. Dinner was not just an excuse for us to satisfy our hunger. This is the real reason to get together, share how your day went, and get to know each other better. This simple habit has brought us closer and made the relationship even stronger.
2. We began to think about each other more often
Again, we used to talk very little to each other on weekdays. Only a few minutes in the morning, before work, and in the evening, before bed. It turned out that we communicated with colleagues more and more often than with each other.
Realizing this, we decided to call each other a couple of times a day just to say a few nice words to each other.
It would seem a trifle, but even a simple text message received from a loved one cheers you up.
I was the first to think to do this, but very soon this habit was passed on to my wife. Give it a try and see if it brings you closer together.
3. We started fooling around together
We used to play a game called Adults all the time. In this game there was no place for meaningless actions and pranks, done only in order to laugh heartily. As I see it now, it made our life boring. Believe me, one of the most important traits that we look for in our partner is a good sense of humor. Without this, we quickly bore each other.
Life is a very serious thing. With our strict and consistent behavior in all respects, we only complicate it. Allow yourself to do stupid things just for fun. After all, a relationship without laughter is like a plant without water, which will soon die.
4. We began to listen to each other more
Have you met partners who, not that they don't listen, but don't even look at each other? When one says something, the other digs into the phone or just looks out the window. These people with all their appearance show that they would like to be somewhere else, but not at the same table with their chosen one. What keeps these people together is a mystery.
I noticed long ago that the most frank and enlightening conversations happen when you are not expecting at all: in bed late at night, at a friend's wedding or in a bar, among a crowd of strangers. And if you put off this conversation until later, then you risk never again hearing those important things that you should know about in order to make the relationship even better.
Find an opportunity to listen to each other even when it seems to you that this is not the time or the place.
5. We began to hug each other more often
To me, as a guy, at first it seemed like a stupid idea, but after a few phrases from my wife that outside the bedroom I did not pay attention to her at all, I began to improve.
Nothing supernatural. I just began to hug her more often, kiss her goodbye, take her hand while walking. As I learned later, women, in addition to sex, need some kind of physical manifestation of a man's love. It makes them feel happy.
6. We began to wish each other good night
It may sound trite, but ask yourself, when was the last time you said goodnight to your soul mate? At first glance, such insignificant signs of attention make the relationship more complete.
Perhaps what I am going to say will seem extreme to you, but still you had better keep this in mind. Life is an unpredictable thing, and you never know when you will say goodbye for the last time. Many would give everything for the opportunity to say goodbye to the closest people once again.
Just think about it for a minute.
7. We began to support each other in everything
Think about it, one of the great reasons to be with someone is their support. I would say even more categorically: no support - no real relationship. It is important for all of us that there is a person nearby who will support us even when it seems that the whole world has turned its back on us.
Happiness comes when a loved one turns into your most loyal fan, who supports you in everything and always.
And it doesn't matter if it's about support before the upcoming interview, or it's just approval of the desire to stay in bed all day.
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