How to stop using foul language and switch to correct Russian

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Although swear words do not paint a single person and everyone understands this, it turns out to be difficult to get rid of a bad habit. The life hacker understands why we start to use foul language and how to train ourselves to speak without obscene language.

Until about the middle of the 19th century, foul language in Russia was a criminal offense. During the time of Tsar Alexei Mikhailovich Romanov, a person was publicly flogged with rods for using swear words!

Obscene speech has always been considered a sign of lack of culture and belonging to the lower class. It was a kind of pointer: before you is an uneducated person who leads a dubious lifestyle and does not strive for positive changes.

Why do people swear

It is absurd to talk about the ignorance of modern people. Now more than ever, the environment provides an incredible amount of resources for cultural enhancement, self-development and creativity. It is logical that the mate should have become an ordinary atavism. So what's the reason?

1. The need for protection and self-affirmation

Obscene language is unique. It exists, but it is forbidden to speak in it by society. As you know, ignoring the rules occurs either out of naivety or out of fear and despair. So lovers of strong words cannot be called happy people.

A person tries to hide vulnerability and self-doubt behind a demonstration of aggressiveness, independence and rudeness.

The more a person experiences confusion, disorientation in life, the more often he resorts to obscenities. Like a frightened and furious animal. Growling, hissing and showing fangs.

As a result, teens swear out of fear that they will not be accepted as real. It's easier to assert yourself according to the general laws of the pack, to be like everyone else. And adults, bearing a huge burden of responsibility, swear to drown out the feeling of fear due to possible failures.

The saddest thing is when people use mate in communication with each other. Insulting and humiliating the interlocutor, the opponent tries to assert himself at the expense of the other and at least for a second feel his superiority. Even if it is inappropriate from a moral and ethical point of view, in a way.

2. Laziness of mind

Indeed, why strain and spend energy on the correct construction of sentences, the selection of expressive words and the use of effective oratorical techniques.

After all, why waste time explaining in verbose flowery phrases what can be expressed in one second in one word.

Pronounced "bl …" with different intonation coloring will save the sleeping brain and not disturb the memory. Disappointed: "Well, dear Klavdia Petrovna, have you forgotten again about the existence of a new model for writing service notes." Aggressive: "Colleague, did you not see that you are placing this heavy box right on my leg." Delighted: "Look how extraordinarily beautiful around!"

The ability to communicate fully and beautifully is replaced by useless hums of different duration and tone. Gradually, the vocabulary is depleted, and it becomes more and more difficult to speak the correct Russian language.

3. Constant tension and stress

It has long been proven that the mat will briefly release steam and feel functional again. Modern people have enough reasons for stress and conflict situations.

A person uses obscene language as protection from the outside world. He's like a bristling hedgehog.

Such a person constantly experiences such strong psychological discomfort that over and over again he simply ceases to notice the problems of other people, becomes less sympathetic and benevolent.

And this model of behavior is transferred to the entire perception of the world, a negative self-perception is formed, other people and events begin to irritate. Swearing words have been proven to increase adrenaline levels, body temperature and blood pressure. Like alcohol or drugs.

A person understands that he is beginning to be sucked into a destructive funnel of aggressiveness, a split in interpersonal relations, and a lack of self-understanding. He loses control of himself and his life.

How to stop using foul language

It turns out that mate does not exist by itself, but is a side effect of negative changes occurring in a person.

It is useless to force yourself not to swear. You need to find the root cause and understand yourself.

Take some time to introspect. Take a paper and a pen, sit comfortably in your favorite chair, relax. Write down your ideas and reflections.

1. Try to remember what was the prerequisite for using the mat in your speech. Write on a piece of paper the actions and words of other people, situations for which you usually swear.
2. How much profanity helps you, and under what circumstances? And in what way does its use interfere?
3. Imagine that you have stopped cursing. Are you more comfortable? Or, on the contrary, you want to pour out the accumulated aggression and negative emotions in other forms?
4. How badly do you need a checkmate?

Analyze your answers. Think over a plan of action to return the excellent Russian language to your speech based on the recommendations given.

Change your attitude towards people and circumstances. Having understood the reasons that make you want to swear, try to either change your attitude towards them, or delete them from life.

For example, you swear while driving. It is clear that you are constantly worried internally, bearing responsibility for the passengers and the safety of the car. Pedestrians scurrying across the road anywhere and dashing drivers are perceived by you as a potential threat. You are afraid this is normal.

But is there any point in getting angry and swearing, thereby reducing the concentration of attention while driving? Other road users are unlikely to pay attention to you, and the mat will not change the general situation on the road. It may be easier to exhale and, humming your favorite melody, calmly drive home in a great mood, without winding yourself up.

Learn to relax. You can relieve stress by playing sports, meditation, your favorite hobby, spending time with loved ones or in nature. As you learn to make time for yourself and relieve stress, you will find that you use foul language less and less often.

Build your confidence. You cannot endlessly assert yourself at the expense of other people. You need your own inner core, a sense of yourself as a person that you respect, value and love. Anyone who is confident in himself, has inner strength and a strong spirit, will never allow himself to humiliate a person and walk on his pride.

Try to control your emotions. The most effective option is to mentally count to ten before answering an unpleasant person for you or reacting to the current situation. Replace obscene words with alternative expressions from normal Russian. It takes a little practice and patience to get used to.

Develop constantly. Don't stop there. Read more quality literature, expand your vocabulary. Take interesting courses on virtual educational sites, improve your qualifications, master related specialties, and be interested in the world. Set new goals, dream, move forward.

It will give you self-confidence and make positive changes in your life. It is likely that you will meet interesting people with whom it is pleasant to talk without a mat. In addition, you will learn to enjoy using beautiful and rich phrases.