7 truths that family and friends will never tell you

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

An inconvenient, but necessary truth that will help you take a sober look at your life and change it before it's too late.

People often perceive themselves as completely different from what they really are. Emotions and subjectivity of judgments affect. The environment only exacerbates the situation. Research has shown that people try to avoid inconvenient truths. Therefore, even the best of us sometimes in our hearts think: "They are bad, but I'm great!"

But only a correct self-image helps to achieve success in all areas of life. These truths will help you take a sober view of life and, if you wish, make adjustments to it.

1. If you don’t have what you want, then you don’t want it

Stop lying to yourself that you want to be rich or successful. We have exactly what we want. If you don't have enough money, then you are so comfortable. If there is a partner with whom you feel bad, then there is a need to suffer.

Let's look at a common example. A woman dreams of a rich husband. Subconsciously, she realizes that she cannot interest a successful partner. After all, who does a wealthy man need? Self-confident, self-sufficient, self-conscious, harmonious friend.

The lady understands: she can become like that, but she will have to constantly work on herself. So she decides it's easier to lie on the couch eating fast food and watch TV shows than making healthy meals or exercising. And if you think about it, Vasya, who is close by, is not so bad. There is no one at Lyudka's house from the third floor. So come on, this rich man!

2. You are treated the way you want it

You have probably noticed that their relatives and colleagues treat good people frankly badly. Often we ourselves ask ourselves: "How did I deserve this attitude?" The answer is simple: nothing but your own attitude towards yourself.

If we want to be offended, then we will definitely find a situation and a person who will do something wrong. If you need to suffer, we will certainly contact someone who will commit acts that bring pain. And if we really want to be happy, then we will be, regardless of who and what does or says.

You cannot offend anyone; you can only consciously decide to suffer. And there will definitely be a suitable situation - tested by millions of people.

So stop murmuring and trying to change others. Learn to truly love yourself. You will be surprised at the changes that will begin to take place.

3. There is no and never will be a magic pill and a 100% working technique

Still waiting for scientists to come up with a way to eat and not get fat? I've been waiting for a long time. I ate cookies and believed in a miracle. But the miracle did not happen. And pancreatitis happened due to improper nutrition. And along with it and the forced strict diet prescribed by the doctor.

Yes, I wanted sweets, I missed fried potatoes, and the lack of my favorite pickles and coffee in the diet seemed like a tragedy. But no one said it would be easy. But it turned out that the principle of "eating less" works. And no magic belts, no exercise equipment, no pills are needed. It is worth regularly working on yourself, and the result is inevitable.

Stop waiting for the guru to share with you a secret for a purely symbolic amount. Pull yourself together and act now.

• Are you dreaming of losing weight? Eat right.
• Need money? Work instead of daydreaming.
• Want even more money? Become the best at what you do, look for new ways to bring your product to the world.

Yes. This is hard. There will be mistakes and bumps. But no one else has it. And the idea of a magic pill is better left in the movie "The Matrix", where it belongs.

4. You Can Create Opportunities Yourself

Forbes founder Bertie Charles Forbes wrote in 1917: “Mediocrities wait for opportunities to come to them. Strong and capable people follow opportunities. The smartest people create them themselves. Opportunities will not help a person who has not trained himself to see and use them. Forbes knew what he was talking about and was successful.

You can wait for fate to present a suitable partner or a good job. You can advertise yourself on job sites or go to where you usually meet. Or you can propose your candidacy to the company yourself or approach the person you like and get to know each other.

You may be denied, but one day they will agree. Not because the stars formed that way, but because you yourself created a lucky chance.

5. No one owes anything to anyone in this world

No children, no spouses, no society, no own guinea pig. It is worth remembering that we should not be loved, should not be cared for and should not be treated with respect.

Yes, others can do this of their own free will, but not under duress. Where there is a place for overestimated expectations, resentment, reproaches and misunderstandings begin. As soon as this realization comes, it becomes easier to breathe. And it is no longer possible to be offended.

Did your acquaintance congratulate you on your birthday? The man didn't hold the door? The neighbor didn't say hello? They shouldn't have done all this. They could, but did not. This is their right.

We ourselves are responsible for the quality of our life.

If you want to go to the theater, you should buy a ticket. If you dream of going on a trip, but do not have enough money, make money on it. And you should never rely on quid pro quo. Maybe she will, maybe not. It's that simple and without drama.

6. Over time, life will not get easier and better

How nice it is to reassure ourselves that we will suffer now, but then someday everything will definitely work out, it will be fine, a truck with gingerbread will turn over on our street, then we will live.

No, we won't live! Then it doesn't exist. There is only now, in which something can be done and changed. Time is a convention; it does not heal or change by itself. We change when we stop whining and start acting.

As long as we put off a happy and successful life for later, it passes.

7. Life is very short

An amazing thing: a person, unlike animals, knows for sure that he will die. And yet he lives as if this will not happen, as if he still has so much time left that he can waste days and weeks.

We will never know how much is allotted to each of us. But in any case, these years will fly by instantly. And if you do not take life into your own hands, it can turn out as with the hero of the film "Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears", who sat on a bench and said: "Somehow, life has passed in a foolish way. I was puffed up by something, it all seemed that I didn’t live, but I’m writing a draft, I’ll still have time to get it right …”

No draft, friends! We write cleanly. It makes no sense to be sad about the transience of life, because it will not become longer from this. But you can stop wasting precious time on useless activities, illusions and resentments and live consciously, filling every day with meaning and joy.