10 psychological tricks to make people like you

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Scientists talked about what attracts us to others and how to use this knowledge in life.

1. Copy the demeanor of the interlocutor

During a conversation, use similar gestures and facial expressions, repeat the pose of the interlocutor. According to research, this behavior accelerates the onset of sympathy.

2. Spend more time with the person you want to start a relationship with

We are more likely to like people we know. Psychologists conducted an experiment: four girls, unknown to the students, attended classes at the university. Some came often, others rarely. Then the students were shown their photographs and asked to say who they like most. It turned out that those who were more often seen in the classroom.

3. Praise the other person

People associate the adjectives you praise them with your own personality. This phenomenon is called spontaneous transfer of qualities. It works and vice versa: if you constantly speak negatively about a person, what you say about him, they begin to ascribe to you.

4. Show positive emotions

We are greatly influenced by the mood of others. Often we unconsciously experience the same emotions as the interlocutor. Show a positive attitude to make a good impression.

5. Don't be afraid to sound imperfect

By demonstrating a flaw or making a mistake, you show that nothing human is alien to you. Scientists discovered this by examining how mistakes affect sympathy. The participants in the experiment listened to a recording of the quiz. If someone answered all the questions correctly, but accidentally spilled coffee at the end, they liked him more than the one who was perfect.

6. Focus on shared views

We are drawn to people who are somewhat similar to us. This is called the similarity attraction effect. And we especially like people with whom we have common negative traits.

7. Perceive the interlocutor the way he wants to be perceived

People want to be seen as they see themselves. When a person's image of us coincides with our own image of ourselves, relationships develop successfully. We feel that we are understood, and this is necessary to establish trust.

8. Share something personal

This will help you build a relationship and get to know the person better. Start with general themes (like which movie you both recently watched) and gradually move on to more personal ones. Then tell something intimate about yourself. This will create a feeling of closeness, and it will be easier for the interlocutor to trust you in the future.

9. Let the other person tell you about yourself

Researchers at Harvard University have found that when we talk about ourselves, we experience pleasure comparable to the pleasure of food, money, and sex. So let the other person tell you something about yourself. That way he will have more pleasant memories of your conversation.

10. Behave as if you like the person you are talking to

When we believe that a person is well disposed towards us, we ourselves begin to feel sympathy for him. This phenomenon is called reciprocal sympathy.

In addition, when we assume that people will treat us well, we behave towards them more warmly. This increases the chances of making a good impression.

If you're not sure how the other person feels about you, act like you like them. This will make him more likely to sympathize with you.