How to stop criticizing yourself

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Constant self-criticism is unlikely to make you happier. Therefore, you need to get rid of this contradictory quality.

First, let's see how self-criticism becomes an integral part of a person's life.

What models does our mind follow?

1. Circle

We walk in circles non-stop. It may sound like we are trapped in some kind of mind trap. But in fact, there is nothing wrong with the fact that the brain works in cycles. On the contrary, it is wonderful.

Stability, certainty and our innate "settings" keep us afloat. It seems to us that we are just walking by moving our legs. But every time you walk, your brain works out the same program. We can drive and listen to music at the same time. We are able to maintain a conversation and automatically perform a few more tasks. The same cyclical nature explains our habits, values, and character traits.

2. Criticism

Each of us has an inner critic. His voice makes us work harder, achieve our goals, overcome difficulties and achieve better results.

Like cyclicality, criticism is inherent in every person. It holds us back, calls for logic, helps us become more successful and moves us forward.

3. Volume

The mind is like a mixing console where you can turn up and turn down the volume. Over time, a person changes. At a certain period of life, some values and beliefs are turned on at full capacity, and some are diminished and forgotten.

Why criticism doesn't always work

If the dominant inner voice is criticism, which drowns out everything else, you only dwell on it. Criticism is turned up at full volume, and there is no way you can turn it off.

Most of us are too hard on ourselves. Even those who seem ideal to us from the outside. We are simply convinced that in order to achieve something in this life and become successful, we must always give our best.

And our inner critic encourages us, who does not always speak out in our favor. Healthy criticism can push us to new achievements, and unfounded criticism can completely kill motivation and desire to move on.

How to stop criticizing yourself

To do this, begin to consciously approach your life. Our inner voices throw up hundreds of thoughts, both positive and negative. Listen and accept them. Don't try to turn off these voices. Try to drown out the self-flagellation and turn up the volume of those voices that are encouraging, helping to overcome difficulties, and criticizing to the point.

Gradually, your mind will rebuild itself to deliberate criticism. There are several effective ways to achieve this.

• Keep a diary and write down all your thoughts and emotions. This will help you recognize which criticisms are unfair and hindering your progress.
• Notice five good things every day that you did or that happened to you. Be sure to write them down so that you can re-read and be charged with positive.
• Practice mindfulness meditation. This will help you calm your thoughts and learn to listen to your inner critic as if from the outside, without getting hung up on his reproaches.

If you try to do this daily, then within a week you will surely feel the changes.