Gestures that tell you more about the other person's attitude than words

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Body language never lies and can tell a lot. Knowing how to read the gestures of the interlocutor, you will be able to accurately determine how the person treats you.

Human gestures in most cases are involuntary, and their meaning is read by us unconsciously. Therefore, knowing the body language, you can both "read" the interlocutor and deliberately use the described gestures in a conversation to make the necessary impression.

1. Interest

Most people try to follow the unspoken rule of communication and show signs of interest in any conversation by asking the other person for various details. Therefore, it is very important to be able to read the real mood of the interlocutor and his attitude to the conversation based on non-verbal signs.

The listener's interest is revealed in the absence of gestures. Sincerely admiring your speeches, the interlocutor will be completely focused on you, trying not to create unnecessary noise. Such a person in most cases will stare at you, freezing all over. His eyebrows can be slightly raised and his eyes widened.

A person who has a great interest in what is happening, with all his being seeks to get closer to the source of information. Therefore, you can notice the tilt of the body towards the speaker.

2. Lack of interest

An uninterested person, on the contrary, will look in different directions, make numerous movements, look at the phone. The fewer movements the interlocutor makes in a conversation with you, the more he is interested in you.

A person demonstrates his rejection of the situation also by the direction of his gaze. If he looks at the door, he is bored or your company is not particularly pleasant for him. The desire to leave is also evidenced by the orientation of the body and legs towards the exit.

It is important to be able to distinguish lack of interest in you from the reverie of the interlocutor. He may be immersed in his problems and show no signs of interest. The pensiveness of a person can be determined by his hands and gaze.

If the limbs of the interlocutor constantly live somewhere in the region of the head, he scratches the back of his head, rubs his temples, rests his forehead on his hand, and his gaze is not focused, you can be sure that an active thought process is going on in his head and at the moment his own thoughts than communication. Therefore, you should not draw conclusions about the rudeness of the interlocutor if you receive a harsh response to your appeal. It is better to leave a person in this state alone.

3. Respect

For a man, there is the easiest and most reliable way to find out how the interlocutor relates to him - this is a handshake. The person who respects you will be the first to reach out to greet you. If he does this without much desire or with a delay, he is more likely to treat you somewhat arrogantly. The duration of the handshake, as well as the angle between the hands, also matters: people who respect each other do not try to quickly release their hand, and also keep their hands straight.

A person who respects you has an open look, a sincere smile. He often looks in your direction, and if he seeks approval from you, he will avert his eyes when your gazes intersect.

4. Sexual sympathy

A sincere smile is the best indicator of sympathy. However, you need to learn how to read it. It should be wide, the corners of the mouth should be raised, and the upper eyelids should be slightly lowered. This is a real frank smile, which, like nothing else, testifies to your liking for a person. Mirroring the other person's posture is also a universal sign of sympathy.

Confident men express their sympathy for the girl with a glance lingering at her. The less confident, on the contrary, will sometimes glance at the object of sighing, quickly changing the direction of their gaze. Also, a man can cling to a belt in the abdomen with his thumb, direct his feet towards the woman and constantly straighten his clothes in her presence.

Signs of female sympathy are well known: ladies begin to unconsciously touch their hair and straighten their clothes. An open mouth, enlarged pupils, demonstration of sexual parts of the body also speaks of attraction.

5. Neglect

A striking sign of a dismissive attitude is a downward look: barely open eyes at the moment of greeting, a formal, artificial smile, general lethargy of facial expressions.

If a person's arms are crossed over his chest, and his thumbs are raised up, he feels superior. Other signs testify to the same: hands, folded behind the head or folded into a "house".

6. Mistrust

A person who has strong doubts about the truth of your words will most likely try to avoid direct eye contact. The interlocutor who has not made a definite opinion about your words will repeat some monotonous movements like scratching his head, bringing his hands to his face, shrugging his shoulders. In such a situation, he really doubts and you still have a chance to persuade him to your point of view.

If a person touches their mouth, then they most likely no longer trust you. He doubts your sincerity, and it will be quite difficult to convince him.

7. Sense of danger

The person believes that you are in danger. Not necessarily physical: your words may radically disagree with his position, and he prepares for defense on a verbal level. This condition is evidenced by the well-known closed poses: crossed arms or legs. However, the same sign characterizes insecure people or people who find themselves in an unfamiliar environment.

In such a situation, it is best to change the tone and topic of the conversation. Switch to something else that is neutral or pleasing to the other person. When his tension subsides, gently return to the unfinished conversation. If his position becomes open, his legs and arms no longer cross, you can be sure that his attitude towards you has become more friendly.

8. Latent consent

Very often people internally agree with what you say, but in the conversation they continue to defend their point of view. This can happen for various reasons: perhaps they are trying to bargain for more favorable terms when negotiating a contract, although they agree to less. Learning to read this inner agreement is very important.

The lack of gestures of disagreement and distrust in the interlocutor, as described above, speaks of this. The person will argue with you, but at the level of gestures he does not show disagreement, behaving relaxed and free. This is a clear sign of willingness to accept your terms. If, at the moment of denying your words, he makes an affirmative nod of his head, as if saying "Yes, yes, I understand everything, but …" - insist on your own, he really understands everything and has already accepted your conditions.