How to respond to criticism: advice from Lesya Ryabtseva

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

The experience of a person who has experienced on himself what universal condemnation is, and has learned to ignore someone else's negativity.

Who are the haters?

It is important to remember that negativists, who are also haters, are a separate category of citizens who live off criticism of others. Can you imagine all those people who have the time and energy to print these millions of negative comments? Most often these are notorious or not very self-confident people who have a lot of free time and little personal affairs.

Why are they doing this?

The banal "if they are discussing, then they are jealous" works. Remember that attention to your person is more a plus than a minus. If you are noticed, then you are doing something important. Most of us live in very tight confines of comfort, limiting ourselves and our imaginations, not allowing ourselves to do as we want. It is logical that it is in our nature to criticize those who differ from us at least in their own freedom and flight of thought.

And what about the rest?

Realized, successful and happy people do not live someone else's life, they have enough of their own. Haters are a minority, but a noisy minority, so it seems as if only they exist around you. But if you look closely, you realize that the majority do not think about you at all, do not even know about your existence. Most people think about themselves.

How to live with it?

The best part about communicating with haters is the ability not to communicate with them. Reduce the flow of negativity and focus on the positive. Narrow your social circle, find true friends. There should not be many of them, but it is these 2-3 people who are always able to support you.

So, what is next?

Distinguish criticism from remarks, you can isolate something useful from someone else's opinion. Perhaps, behind the not very pleasant form there is some practical advice. In this case, do not take the advice to heart, treat it objectively, without emotion. Your business is not yourself. And advice is an opportunity, a free lesson, a focus group.