Threesome: what you need to know for everyone to enjoy it

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Many dream about it, but few decide. Let go of your prejudices and allow yourself to experience new experiences. How not to spoil your first experience of threesome sex, tells our reader, who chose not to be named.

Foreword

When the tips from this article won't help:

• if you met by chance at one time;
• if you are two guys or two girls who want a thrill right now;
• if you don’t care what will happen after, you don’t plan repetitions and by and large you don’t care if everyone will be happy.

Here I will give tips to help the couple get new sensations and not get burned by it.

Why add variety to your sex? Passion fades over time, and this is a proven fact. If you've been together for more than three years, then you already understand what I'm talking about. My wife and I are much more together and still maintain an interest in each other. Trio is one way. This article is for established couples looking to diversify their sex lives. I will tell you about my experience from the point of view of a man.

I will not talk here about how to come to this or persuade a partner. I assume that your relationship is fairly frank and that you talk to each other about your desires. If not, you have to start with something else. Here are articles to help you:

• Let's talk frankly: 5 rules of communication in sex.
• Say yes: the nature of consent in sex.
• The main qualities of a good sexual partner.

First experience

The trio's first experience is a test for any relationship. The first time, you need to be especially careful with each other. Make it clear that you are here for each other, the highest value for you is your relationship, not the invited participant.

If in the process you see that your partner doesn't like something, pause, drag him or her to the bathroom and talk.

Tell us how you love each other. Relax, calm down, inspire - well, you know better what to say to your spouse. And if the discomfort has disappeared, continue. If not, it's better to complete it for today. You will still have a chance to try.

If you have not had a similar experience before, do not rush to invite good acquaintances to your place. In case something goes wrong, you risk ruining your relationship with the third party for a long time. If you have the slightest doubt, practice with a professional first. Look at each other's reactions. At the end, discuss whether you liked everything, and be sure to show how dear you are to each other. It is very important to understand that your partner values you.

So you've made up your mind. Next, you need to decide on the format.

Formats

MZHM

The simplest format is MZHM. It is simple in that it is easy to satisfy a woman in this way and the business almost always ends successfully.

Pros:

1. Two men can satisfy a woman much more fully than one. Four arms, two mouths, two cocks. Double penetration. Double pleasure. One of the most common fantasies for a woman is her and two machos (or more). The lady feels like a queen, being in the focus of attention of two men at once.

2. With some sophistication of at least one of the participants, this method requires almost no preparation. Only trust is needed from a woman, then everything will turn out by itself. Two men will always find something to do with a woman.

- Why do you like group sex so much?

- Because there is an opportunity to skip.

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3. Everyone has heard of multiple orgasms in a woman. The male body, on the other hand, is structured differently. Men take time to recover from ejaculation, and the MFM trio are perfect for that. While one is busy with active actions, the second is resting, and vice versa. Thus, you can provide many hours of uninterrupted extravaganza.

4. There is no risk of microflora transfer. If the invited man is wearing a condom, then no one will get new germs and fungi. In contrast to the FMJ format, where safety must be monitored much more carefully.

Minuses:

1. A woman must trust at least one of the men, and trust is justified. You need someone to be able to hear: "Stop, I don't want that." Four strong hands in the midst of passions greatly reduce the degree of freedom of the partner, and it is easy to overlook that something is causing her discomfort. For example, in this particular position she is hurt by his frictions. Moans of pleasure and moans of pain are subtle, especially if you don't know each other well. There must be someone who can stop the actions that are unpleasant to the woman, change the position or amplitude.

Come on, why are you …

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Or, for example, she was not going to have anal sex today. In the heat, two men can easily insist on their own. This is not compulsion, no. After the next orgasm, exhausted, the girl may simply not have time or be unable to argue. But then she will say: “No, I didn't want that, somehow it worked out. I was against it, it is unpleasant for me. And the impression will be spoiled, and there will be resentment. To avoid this, a stop word should be set.

2. Homophobia is strong in our country. Men need to be aware that they will be in the same bed with another naked man with an erect penis. And there are no options at all to avoid accidental touches. If you are frightened by the sight of a revived jade rod next to you, if you blush with a suffocating wave, lightly touching something, refrain from such adventures. The psyche is more expensive.

FFM

The FFM format is much more complicated.

There is a widespread legend among men that having sex with two women is just wow! A fascinating picture rises before my eyes: two houris are dancing, kissing passionately, stroking each other, at times glancing invitingly at the man. Excited to the utmost, they call him to themselves and, trembling with lust, pounce on him.

Nonsense.

- Lyosh, if you want, I'll tell you, how would it be?

- No I do not want to.

- And everyone wants to.

- Come on.

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In nine out of ten cases, either one or both women immediately remain dissatisfied and unhappy with the past party, no matter what they tell you.

There are a lot of reasons:

• the man paid her less attention than she would like;
• the man was engaged in the second partner for too long, and the first one had time to cool down;
• the man got overexcited and finished too quickly;
• one of the partners turned out to be jealous;
• the girls began to compare themselves and suffer from their imaginary physical disabilities and so on.

The main reason is that there was not enough male strength and attention for two at once. There is a way out, and below I will tell you how to organize a FFM trio and satisfy both.

Pros:

1. That's very beautiful. The sight of two naked women in one bed is a delightful sight. Men, with rare exceptions, find Leisbee eroticism exciting. No wonder this is one of the most popular stories in the porn industry. Most women like it too.

2. The FFM format allows you to reveal female sexuality. According to statistics, over 70% of women are bisexual or would like to try it. Not all of them are ready to admit this, even to themselves, and of these 70%, a significant part will never get this experience. The FFM Trio is a great and safe way to explore this area of your sexuality.

Minuses:

1. Easy to mess up. I described the reasons above. A man will have to give it all in order to satisfy both. This is really difficult, and all three risk being left unhappy.

In addition, women are more sensitive than men to notice any nuances in the mood of the whole trio and react to it. One unsuccessful joke - and the temperature of excitement drops by a dozen or two degrees. Or, for example, a woman usually drinks semi-sweet, and you bought a brut.

And women are more ashamed of each other than men."Oh no, she will see my extra pounds on my hips, horror, rather turn off the light!" FMF is a fragile system.

2. Considering the first point, it is necessary to prepare for such a meeting in advance. If the partners know little about each other, you need to get to know each other better. Find out your taste preferences. Make sure that the invited girl is not afraid and trusts you. Telling your woman how much you love her again is never superfluous. Make sure that your woman does not see the threat in the invitee. And other little things, about them - below.

3. In the LMF format, increased security measures must be observed. It is possible to transfer the vaginal microflora from one woman to another not only with a penis, but also with fingers, lips and other parts of the body. Here you caress the vagina with one of them with your fingers. Now, before tackling another, you need to wash your hands or somehow treat them.

4. Among women, there is a significant percentage of those who do not accept sex or even just erotic games with a person of the same sex. And if you have such a girl in a pair (or both), they will not like it. You can try: suddenly their interest wakes up. Sometimes it happens, but not for the first time.

How to build a FMW meeting so that everyone is happy and wants more?

A man has to be a sex giant to satisfy two women alone. In our age of bad ecology, these are vanishingly few. But there is another way: to cooperate.

A high-quality WMF format is a team game, when two partners are engaged in a third.

Start with the girl you invite. Together with your regular partner, give all your attention to her. Then, after climax and relaxation, switch roles and take care of your woman, again together.

You are lucky if the partners in your trio are bisexual. Then they will take the thought of caressing another participant together with you with a bang. But what if they are strictly heterosexual?

To help you and yourself not be left idle, they do not need to portray lesbian porn, do cunnilingus or squeeze breasts. You don't even have to kiss. Enough innocuous strokes on the back, stomach, legs. Kisses of the neck, shoulders and ears. Head and hair caress. Even just hug, look into the eyes and smile encouragingly, while the man fully caresses her. Believe me, this turns all three people on, even in the case of one hundred percent heterosexuality.

This method increases the likelihood of success by an order of magnitude. To do this, your partner must understand and accept it, and better - both girls.

General practical advice

There are several important points to consider when planning. Your first meeting will probably go completely different from what you imagined. But still something can be foreseen.

1. Most importantly, all three should like each other. If at least one participant has unpleasant feelings for any other, sex will only aggravate them. In this combination, nothing will come of it. Stop and start looking for a partner again.

2. To interrupt an orgy that has gone too far, set a stop word with your regular partner. Anyone who hears it must stop the action immediately. In what situations it is needed, I have described above.

3. Some sexologists recommend abstaining from sex for a few days before the meeting, and also include aphrodisiac foods in your diet. I agree with them.

4. Better to meet on neutral territory. The invited partner - a girl or a man - will feel constrained in the owners' apartment in any case. Unless you have a large country house with a sauna and a guest bedroom. In the master's apartment, a tactful person will be bound by the norms of guest behavior, but in a rented apartment or in a hotel room, everyone is equal. It will be easier for you to relax in neutral territory.

A rented apartment with good finishes is the best. Then hammam. According to some girls, the good thing about the sauna is that if there is an awkward pause in a conversation, you can always fill it with the words “Let's go to the pool!”.

At worst, a hotel room. Not everyone will enjoy going to the room three together in front of the guard. The worst option is the killed Khrushchev. Don't even consider.

If you have the opportunity, make sure in advance that the room is clean. Bring slippers. Dirty floors and dust on furniture are a surefire way to spoil the first impression of an evening that has not yet begun.

5. Provide a romantic atmosphere. Soft music, candles, flowers, chocolate, twilight. This is important for a woman, even when the two of you are alone. And in such a delicate matter as a trio, romance is triple important.

If you are not sure if all the participants like scented candles, do not use them, use regular ones. Some people smell unpleasant.

You can choose the music yourself or take one of the specialized podcasts, for example.

6. I've heard advice to start the evening by watching porn. From my point of view, this is doubtful and highly dependent on the preferences of the partners. Decide for yourself.

7. Stock up on fruit, water, and snacks. For some, light snacks are half a banana, for others, half a grilled chicken. Everything is relative, so it is worth finding out in advance who prefers what kind of snack and what alcohol they prefer. Eating and drinking is better for less and lighter. Eliminate strong alcohol. Water must be present!

8. Stock up on sufficient lubricant and contraceptives. Prepare disinfectants like Miramistina. They can handle a man's hands during the action, if you have FMF, and the genitals after. Here's a comprehensive guide on how to use it.

I told you about my experience. If you want to add or clarify something - write a comment on this article, I will definitely read and answer.

Good luck and go for it!