10 rules for good spanking

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

A gentle whipping can be exciting and even desirable sex play.

Spanking (English "spanking", "thrashing") is when one of the partners "punishes" the other, loudly slapping him on the buttocks with an open palm or a light flat object.

Spanking is considered one of the most common and safest BDSM techniques and is ideal for beginners. On the one hand, the lower partner (he is the submissive, the subordinate, the one who is spanked) is in pain. On the other hand, this pain is not too strong and is even capable of giving pleasure. Spanking will help both partners understand whether they like these games and whether it is worthwhile to continue experimenting in this direction at all.

Having decided to try the above technique, follow a few important rules - they will make this intimate event interesting, fascinating and desirable.

1. Make sure this game is mutually agreed

Awareness and voluntariness are the basis of any BDSM practice. Both the dominant (top) and the submissive must clearly understand what the process is exactly and give unequivocal consent to it.

2. Come up with a stop word

Despite the fact that spanking is a relatively innocent type of BDSM, it can be played too. Therefore, the partners should discuss in advance the stop word - an expression that, being pronounced by the lower one, immediately stops the process.

The ideal stop word is a short, clear, and unrelated noun or adjective. Options "no", "stop", "stop", "enough" are not suitable, because in a fit of passion they may not be perceived as restrictions.

As a stop word, English-speaking citizens often use red - "red" (by analogy with a red traffic signal). You can choose this option or choose another. For example, "carrots". Or "basta". Or another short, harsh and attention-grabbing word sign.

3. Consider a comfortable posture

The most popular position for spanking: the lower one lies on its stomach on the knees of the upper one sitting on the bed. But other options are also possible. For example, the dominant gets down on one knee, and the subordinate bends over the other. Or lays down on the table. Or rests his hands on the wall.

Decide in advance on the position so as not to be embarrassed and act confidently, even if you try spanking for the first time.

4. Remove all unnecessary things from your hands

There should be nothing superfluous on the "working" hand of the spanker. Remove rings, watches, bracelets in advance so as not to damage the skin of the lower one and not hurt him more than intended. Yes, nails should also be cut, at the same time getting rid of the burrs. For every fireman.

5. Decide on a place to spank

It is best to spank the bottom or middle of the buttocks. It is permissible to move to the hips. But the upper part of the buttocks, and even more so the area where the kidneys are located, is a taboo for strikes.

6. Take time to warm up

Spanking involves fairly strong whipping blows. But if you start hitting in this way right away, the lower one will definitely not like it: the pain sensations from habit will be too sharp.

Therefore, do not skip the warm-up phase. First, stroke your partner's buttocks, massage them slightly with your palm. Then do a series of lightest flip flops. And only then, when the skin of the lower one turns pink, you can enhance the effect.

7. Make your flip flops whip

The palm strikes and immediately bounces off the surface of the skin like a whip. Avoid holding your hand on the buttocks: it will be unpleasant for the lower one.

8. Work in batches

After 5-7-10 spanks, take a short break to stroke and massage your buttocks. This will help you, and will give the lower one a breath, feeling deeper new sensations.

nine. Monitor your partner's reactions

The purpose of spanking, like any other BDSM practice, is not to torment the sub, but to have fun. Therefore, when striking, watch what effect they produce on the submissive. If he pulls his buttocks and tries to dodge, stop, focus on gentle strokes and massage. At the same time, ask the bottom how he feels.

You can continue spanking only after the submissive has made it clear that everything is fine with him and he is not against the continuation.

10. Have a conversation

Comment on what you are doing. Vocalize how you feel when your palm touches your buttocks. Spanking is a full-fledged intimate communication, and words will obviously not be superfluous here. Even “dirty”: offensive, shameful expressions in this case can become a vivid and exciting element of a sex game.