10 simple guidelines to help you become a good parent

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Raising children is a responsible task. We will tell you how to upgrade the skills of moms and dads in order to raise a happy child.

1. Be near

One of the important truths is that you cannot be near a child, with your thoughts staying in another place.

You can't play dinosaurs with children and think about business at the same time. This does not work.

You must be completely with your child. Adopt the philosophy of "wherever I am, you are by my side."

2. Be creative with others

With the help of creativity, the child learns the world around him, experiences different emotions and learns to cope with fears. It also develops imagination, creativity and a sense of beauty. Try to do things together: sculpt, draw, cut out shapes, take pictures. Creativity is everything that is filled with beauty, inspiration and fantasy.

3. Make caring for others a priority

For children to learn to appreciate a different perspective and show empathy, they need to constantly hear from you how important caring is. And also to understand that the world does not revolve only around them. Teach them to turn off the TV and help you around the house, be polite even if they are in a bad mood, and not interrupt people during a conversation.

4. Love without reservation

Often, in order to teach the child a lesson, parents deprive him of love: for poor grades they show their dislike, for a broken phone they leave him without sweets. In this way, they demonstrate that love must be earned. First, the child must clean up the apartment, bring a diary with A's, eat all the vegetables, but only then he can be hugged or praised. It is not right.

The more conditioned the support that a child receives, the lower the idea of his own worth as a person.

Children who receive love with reservations turn into adults who underestimate themselves and constantly criticize themselves. But the lucky ones who deserve absolute acceptance grow up to be more harmonious and confident individuals.

5. Don't forget about intelligence

Parenting authors Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne-Bryson write: "During development, a child's brain mirrors what is happening in the parent's brain." That is, when you replenish your level of knowledge and learn to manage emotions, your children also reap these benefits. This means that improving intelligence is one of the greatest and most generous gifts you can give your child.

6. Read and discuss books

Reading is an important stage in the development of children. A personal example will help instill a love of literature. If your child constantly sees you with a book, he will eventually want to read too. But one example is not enough. Read books together and discuss what you read. So you will help the child develop speech and imagination, awaken in him a thirst for knowledge, teach him to think.

7. Empathize with your child

Children learn empathy by observing adult relationships. Therefore, it is so important to show an example of the right attitude towards each other. Be attentive to children, take an interest in their affairs and well-being: this way you will become closer to them, create an atmosphere of trust, security and form a desire to give good to the world.

8. Expand your circle of care

Empathy takes practice - with and outside the family. It is important to first teach your child to take care of loved ones, and then to empathize and help strangers. Show that you need to be attentive to those who are different from us, who are defenseless and weak. Give your child simple tips on how to act to comfort and support others.

9. Hug children more often

Touching and hugging is not just pleasant. When we hug someone, oxytocin (called the "hugging hormone") is released and we feel love and tenderness. Emory University even found a link between touch and stress reduction.

Hugging children more often helps them cope better in adulthood. And babies who are deprived of touch may lag behind in development: they begin to talk and read later.

10. Remember that perfection does not exist

Most parents want to always do everything right and reproach themselves for every mistake. Yes, being an example is a lofty goal. But parents must show their children their imperfection and teach them to overcome the difficulties of life.

If you reproach yourself for any mistakes, then just remember the words of Professor Brené Brown: "It is the ability to admit your imperfection that helps instill in children the courage to be real, compassion for yourself and other people, and unity, which gives a person a true purpose and meaning in life."